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Positive emotions are a sign that we are aligned with our Recovery Purpose.

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Positive emotions are a sign that we are aligned with our Recovery Purpose. Negative emotions are a call for awareness. We've been tol...

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Positive emotions are a sign that we are aligned with our Recovery Purpose. Negative emotions are a call for awareness. We've been told that negative emotions are bad. We should ignore them. That they will "kill us." But this isn't true. Negative emotions are just like physical pain. When you have physical pain our body,  calls for awareness. We are sure if we burned our hand on the stove that we wouldn't pretend we didn't feel any pain... then try not to look at our hand... and then if all else fails just take a bunch of pain killers to numb the pain. We would pay attention to our pain... take immediate action to clean our wound... and the tend to it each day until it is healed. And then... once it's healed... we would probably forget about it. That's the same thing that we must do with negative emotions. Instead of repressing them.... instead of pushing them down... instead of ignoring them and then taking meds to pretend they aren't there. They are asking us to pay attention. To clean them out. Then help them heal... and then to let the pain go. Perhaps one of the most profound human skills is that of being able to feel a negative emotion and let it pass through you... rather than resisting it. When we do this... we allow all parts of ourselves to be seen...heard and healed. When we allow negative emotions to pass through us... they dissipate. And then... we can start doing the work of finding out why they were there in the first place... and work towards healing the wounds of dissociation. Not so we can keep hurting ourselves... but so that we can heal the dissociation that caused the negative emotions... and just like once our burned hand is healed... we let it go... and don't think about it. If we were very physically hurt as a child... I'm sure you haven't spent the last 10/20/30/40 years ruminating about our broken arm when we were 6. We've moved on. Because it's healed. The same thing must happen for our emotions. That is what Claiming our Recovery Purpose is all about.

Positive emotions are a sign that we are aligned with our Recovery Purpose.

Positive emotions are a sign that we are aligned with our Recovery Purpose. Negative emotions are a call for awareness. We've been tol...

Have you considered that expansion and growth in Ten Stages recovery feel scary?

Fraser Trevor

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Title: Have you considered that expansion and growth in Ten Stages recovery feel scary?
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Have you considered that expansion and growth in Ten Stages recovery feel scary? So many times we get asked how to “get rid” of fear or ...

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Have you considered that expansion and growth in Ten Stages recovery feel scary? So many times we get asked how to “get rid” of fear or how to not feel a negative feeling. And we give the same answer… If we aren’t afraid most of the time, we aren’t growing. There’s this idea that a lot of us believe; We are not sure where it came from, but we are pretty mystified by it. The idea is that somehow being on a recovery path will banish all fear and negative emotions from our life. Guess what… it’s rubbish. If we are living a recovery life, we are probably going to come up against more fears than someone who is just coasting on a fellowship program. If we are living life on our ten stage recovery path – we are going to become more sensitive to the emotions we feel and have felt, not less. Somewhere out there it’s as if there’s this promise being made that if we go on our recovery path, are doing it right if we are only feeling happy all the time, never feel scared and can turn off negative emotions like a light bulb. This is not what having a human experience is all about. On the contrary! If we are on The Ten Stage Path, we are inviting fear to come – because we are stepping outside our dissociated comfort zone! We are inviting our emotions to rise, because we are clearing away all the things that prevent us from feeling them. This is the path of the child within – to be courageous enough to feel fear and keep going! To not cut ourselves off from feeling however they feel – and know that there is nothing wrong with them for feeling a down emotion! This is what it means to be a human being a realised child within! It’s a new recovery path! If all we were was some annoying positive robot – life would suck.  “When you numb your pain, you numb your joy” – being human, being open, being alive means being ready to experience it all. And as we do, instead of trying to always “be positive” and beat ourselves up when we don’t achieve that impossible goal, we accept that life is a series of ups and downs – and while it’s true that we can’t always control life, we can give what happens an empowering meaning. And by doing that, we start to take our power and authority back. And we also begin to see that it is by facing our fears of pain, grief and suffering that we grow. Growth, by definition, means we are constantly expanding beyond our comfort zone. And when we expand beyond our comfort zone – the natural experience is FEAR! This doesn’t make us wrong, it makes us join the human experience, and it’s totally normal! Can we allow ourself to feel the way we feel without judging it as wrong ? Self-acceptance is the first major step in transformation to self-autonomy. Without self-acceptance, no amount of reading blogs or doing therapy or life coaching, or yoga or any other modality will work. Without self-acceptance, all those things – including this blog – are just entertainment. So! How can you accept yourself, even more, today? Take action: Leave a comment below and let us know – what parts of ourself are we not accepting? How can we take the knowledge that we have about improving our recovery and turn it into a tangible next action step? Remember to take action and make it real! 
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Have you considered that expansion and growth in Ten Stages recovery feel scary?

Have you considered that expansion and growth in Ten Stages recovery feel scary? So many times we get asked how to “get rid” of fear or ...

The revelation of MBro Dayhab as a new healthy concept in the field of addiction recovery.

Fraser Trevor

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Title: The revelation of MBro Dayhab as a new healthy concept in the field of addiction recovery.
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The revelation of MBro Dayhab as a new healthy concept in the field of addiction recovery. Trust and Consent as a method of contact of fac...

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The revelation of MBro Dayhab as a new healthy concept in the field of addiction recovery. Trust and Consent as a method of contact of facilitators having to earn permission from the recipient to hear a part of their story completely turns the idea of addiction therapy on its head.<div>
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Addiction is a snapshot of a persons life and as we the facilitators gain the trust of the so called addicts a metamorphosis of memories takes part the iceberg of addiction therapy turns turtle exposing the diamonds of crystal reality stuck in the ice this volcano of reason permeates the room and the so-called stigmatised addicts become aware once more of the clear blue waters of their recovery, life stories are reiterated as a positive learning experience and the fog of dissociation is lifted .</div>
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The experience of DAYHAB becomes naturally life enhancing as we move from enforced to denial to reality as we the facilitator listen to the revelation of destruction wrought on our clients and as the brain once more reignites moving from victim to survivor. The movement is rapid as the iceberg of addiction is exposed for what it is as a system of control of the miss-understood and mis-aligned returning us to a healthy uncompromised future.</div>

The revelation of MBro Dayhab as a new healthy concept in the field of addiction recovery.

The revelation of MBro Dayhab as a new healthy concept in the field of addiction recovery. Trust and Consent as a method of contact of fac...

When we find out why we are born, that's when we discover our recovery life's purpose.

Fraser Trevor

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Title: When we find out why we are born, that's when we discover our recovery life's purpose.
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When we find out why we are born, that's when we discover our recovery life's purpose. Most of our problems in life are a symptom ...

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 When we find out why we are born, that's when we discover our recovery life's purpose. Most of our problems in life are a symptom of not knowing, or living, our purpose. We are intentionally created, by our Loving Creator for a special and unique Purpose. We came to earth, experienced fear and mild to intense trauma and in that process forgot Who we are and Where we came from. Then, because we wanted Love, safety, and security... we decided not to listen to our child within, to doubt that we even have any intuition and to focus on things that bring us the illusion of financial and emotional security, but not fulfilment or joy. Because of this.... we feel like we have the Fear of Missing out, but aren't even sure what we're missing out on. We just know that there's something more. We can feel it, but we can't quite put our finger on it. We have brief moments of remembering Who we are and Where we came from. Maybe it's an inspiring moment in a film, or when some great moment is achieved in sports, the Olympics or in a book that you read. But, because life is filled with an overload of content/information and distraction, we quickly forget again. And, over a period, the Light within us that is our Recovery Purpose gets dimmer and dimmer. It never goes out, but it does get small enough to forget that it's there. So, we're not being used for our lives true Purpose. We're not in alignment with why we are born, we are ignoring our intuition, and we are putting our recovery on hold. Maybe we have children, or a job that helps us just "exist" or a pet. And we love our kids, our pet and we are grateful that we can put food on the table... but something is missing. our relationship is void of recovery passion. Perhaps we and our "twin flame" are just roommates now. Or... we decided not to get into recovery because we wanted to focus on our career... But our career is just to pay the bills. It's not purposeful work. we start to want more. 
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We want to set a better example for our children because we notice that they have picked up some of our bad habits. We have a favourite facebook account that we pretend is our life. Those images of Europe, Asia and living a life of time/money/travel freedom... it's our daydream. We pretend that that is our dissociated life. But... these moments are fleeting... A day comes where we notice we are having a hard time paying attention to our Survival Job. We feel anxious. Nervous. So, we go to someone who can write us a prescription to feel better. Chances are... they don't scan our brain... and they don't do an inventory of our life choices.... they don't ask if we are living our recoveery. They just pay attention to the symptoms. Anxious. Inattentive. Nervous. Sad. They label us "bipolar," "ADD" or "depressed" and give us a pill or two. we take the pills. For a moment, we have hope... maybe this will help us feel better. But soon, those pills don't work. And now we're hooked on them and need them just to feel normal. We take on the names that these pill writers called us. We are now just a bipolar/ADD/depressed addict who needs to take pills to be normal. We smile to strangers, but on the inside... we wish that they could see that we're in a dissociated crisis. But, we have to keep it together. we can't be vulnerable. we can't be real. The self-help teachers told us that when we talk about bad things, negative stuff or our problems that you will "attract" more of them. So, we stuff them down. we get a new peer group of best friends who always make us feel better: Caffeine, Alcohol, and Sugar We put on some weight at first. But then more weight. Why? Because that "one drink a week" has turned into a nightly affair. We wake up hungover and take more pills and more Caffeine just to have enough energy to get in the shower. One day, we arrive at our job... and it hits us... Maybe this is as good as it gets. Maybe this is all we deserve. Maybe we're just here to "exist" or "survive." All that hogwash about recovery, it's just for special people. We unfollowed your favourite facebook account because they posted a photo from our dream travel destination... and we decided that it's just a pipe dream. And... you keep your head down and just keep existing. All the while, trying to convince ourself that we don't know what our recovery purpose is... that we aren't sure. And that the only way we would even admit that we have a purpose or could live a life of purpose... we would need a clear plan in place first. we are treating your purpose like our own personal dissociated illusion.... we scream: "SHOW ME THE WAY!" But, we can't see how we could possibly make a living from our recovery purpose, so we keep telling ourselves we don't have one, or that we don't know what it is. Eventually... life gets worse. It shrinks. A few bad things happen in a row that makes you question who we really are. And, eventually... life gets smaller and smaller and smaller... until we arrive at an important moment in our life. A moment will come when we will be stirred by unexpected events. A part of us will wither and die the remnants of our child within, and we will begin to search for the elixir to bring this part of us back to life. we will seek this elixir in friends, lovers, enemies, books, religions, foreign countries, heroes, songs, rituals, and jobs. But no matter where we look, the treasure will evade us. All will seem lost. We will lose all hope that this magic potion even exists. It will be the darkest of nights, and the promise of certain death will lead us to the abyss of despair. But, staring into this abyss, we will begin to see the dim light of our own illumined child within. our radiance will transform the abyss itself into the elusive awakening to real life. And for the first time, we will realise that all the while... it was our own child within that we were searching for. Then you have a massive GATZO moment. "Our Child Within is the most important thing for us to find." We realise that there is no perfect map with a blueprint and checklist of how we will find ourselves. We realise that our recovery is something that we re-discover, bit by bit, a little each day. We realise that the self-help gurus were wrong... fear is not the opposite of Love... Fear, grief and pain are signs that we are getting closer to our recovery. And, when we realise this... we realise that no pill can give us our recovery purpose, no wine can give us purpose... and no amount of chocolate can give us purpose. And then... in a flash... we realise that THIS is the second most important day of our life. We realise that we were re-born for a unique Recovery Purpose... and that we just need to ... we need to re-gather ourself... gather our Heart... our Brains... and our Courage... and realise that we've always had the power of the child hidden within. We have the redemption of each new moment born into our child within to make a new choice. And on this day, the second most important day of our life... we choose to discover our Recovery Purpose... bit by bit... piece by piece. And from that moment forward... we return Home to our Child Within... to our Creator... to discovering our lives Purpose a little more each day. We realise that those weren't panic attacks, they were messages from our Hidden Child Within to get moving. We realise that we have anxiety because we weren't doing the very thing we were born to do. We realise that anyone who is not living with their child within but instead forcing themselves to do boring/repetitive work that isn't fulfilling would have ADD, too. We realise each day that we don't have a problem focusing on the things we LOVE to do, in fact, we wish that life would slow down because when we are in the Zone of our child withins purpose... life and time is flying by. We realise that the real cause of our problems aren't being bi-polar, or depressed or having ADD... We realise that we've been misdiagnosed. We didn't have ADD... We had DDD. Dissociated Deficit Disorder And we realise that ADD/Depression/BiPolar and most of those other labels where covering up our real issue alienation from self the child hidden within. We realise that Bi-Polar was just trying to contain our uniqueness and creativity in a box... and now we are unleashed by the freedom of our child within... We realise that part of our de-pression was re-pression of our child within. So we start to express ourselves. We realise that our ADD wasn't that at all. We realise that we're creative children within whose lives have been focused on boring tasks. We have a hard time paying attention to what doesn't matter, but when we are in our zone of the child within, our attention is locked in. And... in the end... we are grateful for the awakening journey... because now we have gained empathy... experience... and an understanding of the suffering that exists on this world... and from this moment forward... we dedicate ourself to healing the trauma within us... connecting with our child within each and every day... and helping others heal from their traumas and disrespect. And in that moment, we realise... everything we went through... has meaning. And we're awakened for all of it. Remember to get out there, take action and make it real! 
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