Loving yourself is about getting to know your child within. When you get to know who you are, your true essence, that's when you realise that you are recovering.

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://1.bp.blogspot.com/-wVrQ92KtR6Q/WMZTurAkKwI/AAAAAAAAbUs/Whrbokif6r47E1ix0EH9-mVv3PlYUjRCgCLcB/s1600/12936491_715385875269782_7796118700072957201_n.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="320" src="https://1.bp.blogspot.com/-wVrQ92KtR6Q/WMZTurAkKwI/AAAAAAAAbUs/Whrbokif6r47E1ix0EH9-mVv3PlYUjRCgCLcB/s320/12936491_715385875269782_7796118700072957201_n.jpg" width="320" /></a></div> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">Loving yourself is about getting to know your child within. When you get to know who you are, your true essence, that's when you realise that you are recovering. Everything in the world is made of your recovery. Your Child Within is everything. You are in this world, so you are recovered. Your essence is your child within.<br /><br />You may be thinking, okay, I get that I am my child within--I get it in my head, but I don't get it in my heart. In my heart I feel worthless, rejected, depressed. if that is the case, then you are out of touch with your child within. Growing up, you probably never learned who you really are, and today, you are suffering from it.<br /><br />If you do not know who you really are, it doesn't mean that you're worthless. Just because you don't know it's raining outside, doesn't make it so. You are your child within because you are, whether you know it or not. There is just something in the way of your view. Something is blocking your ability to see yourself, to perceive your valuable, true and perfect essence.<br /><br />What could it be? It can be a number of things. One thing that could be blocking your view of yourself is repressed emotions and old coping strategies. Emotions are energy-in-motion that can become trapped inside your child within without expression. If you hold onto emotions, these emotions, this energy never dies, it only cycles in your Childs sub-conscious over and over again, many times below your conscious awareness.<br /><br />Your perceived worth and value, that is, the way you see yourself is determined by your core beliefs. Your core beliefs are determined by the decisions that you made at a very early age, from the womb to seven years old. These core beliefs are positive and life-enhancing when your needs are properly met as a child. Positive core beliefs lead to feelings of positive self worth. However, negative core beliefs tear you down and keep you low. If you feel worthless (which is untrue), then you have negative core beliefs that see yourself not as who you really are--a child within made of perfection, but for who you're not. If you feel worthless, if you disrespect yourself, it is due to poor core dissociated beliefs.<br /><br />Core beliefs are created in childhood. When you have dissociations locked inside yourself that were not dealt with in childhood, for whatever reason, these emotions never go away. Some emotions fester like a fiery furnace, hot with anger and rage. Other repressed emotions press you down, making your mood low and depressed. Other repressed emotions make you nauseous, others make your hip or other body part hurt. Emotions will not be denied! Emotions must be felt directly for the reason in which they were generated, or else they will come out in whacky ways. Lots of ailments, relationship problems and emotional issues are rooted in emotions that were repressed when we were children.<br /><br /><br />The feelings of danger that are encoded in the unprocessed dissociated memories stored in the brain can be triggered by events in the present.<br /><br /><br />Other emotions are FROZEN. Frozen emotions are emotions that you were not safe to feel as a child. For example, a child may be told to "stop crying, or I'll give you something to cry about," or maybe a child had to be an adult before his or her time. These things cause damage to our child within, even though the child can't let on. When a child has to keep a smile on his/her face to protect the heart of his mother, to keep her from feeling guilty for not being able to attend to his/her emotional needs, that child becomes damaged. Emotions are conjured by the abused child, but not necessarily released because releasing negative emotions might hurt someone or make their caretaker angry. Children are hard-wired for survival. Emotional repression is a tool that helps us survive... but it is not conducive to a happy, healthy, whole and full life.<br /><br />Frozen emotions are emotions that occurred during childhood that were unacceptable to be felt. The parent did not allow room for such emotions, so the child has no other option than to keep these feelings frozen in his or her heart. Frozen emotions occur when a child is afraid, terribly afraid. Fear is a natural feeling that comes from the terror of potentially dying. A child will die without a caretaker, therefore, emotional abandonment and other types of abuse causes intense fear for a child.<br /><br />The emotion of FEAR cause a distinct psychological and biological reaction in the human body. Three things happen in the threat of fear. 1. Fight; 2. Flight or 3. Freeze. This blog is about the frozen kind. The fear that causes such terror that it freezes. Stuck.<br /><br />This frozen emotion is caused by intense fear during childhood. It means that the child was deathly afraid of being abandoned, which means death. The child was deathly afraid of not being loved, which also means death to a child. (Children die, literally die from lack of love.)<br /><br />The emotion stays frozen because the child is not safe to express his or her reality within her environment. Instead of expressing our reality and being validated for who we are, we put on a show for the caretaker. This show is a mask which represents the False shadow Self. This mask is not who we really are, but is what the caretaker needs her to be. It is only when we wear this mask that we gain the acceptance needed for us to continue growing up into adolescence. This is the acceptance that will do, however, that doesn't mean it is healthy. It's like a plant growing up with a disease. As long as we wear this fake mask and as long as the original emotions stay frozen in within our child, we shall never fully bloom and recognise our child within.<br /><br />Along with the frozen emotions, stuck within until we will-fully allow for free expression later in our life by doing the ten stages, there is also pieces of our humanity broken off and silenced. Parts of us that are needed in life that we will not be able to access because it is tangled up with frozen, repressed emotion. Emotions that wanted to freeze, but instead acted happy, like nothing was wrong.<br /><br />A good example of feelings being repressed and potentially frozen is when a child feels required to stop crying, for whatever reason. When a child is not honoured and given space for the full expression of his or her self-compassion, we may freeze out of fear of loss of love and acceptance, and pretend to laugh, even though inside, we feels like crying. This is how emotions are repressed.<br /><br />These frozen repressed emotions can be triggered later in adulthood. It shows most obviously when we have a fight with our spouse and we go berserk. Repressed emotions are obvious when we overreact, but there are other ways that repressed emotions rule our life that are very obscure to the dissociated eye. When we continually choose unsuitable marriage partners, allow our bo</span><br /> <div> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">friends to cheat on us, can't stop drinking or gambling... the list is longer than you think. Most of the problems of human emotion are created in the formative years and rooted in repressed dissociated emotions. This is the core of our problems.<br /><br />These frozen emotions that the child was not allowed to feel never go away.They be4come dissociated This is huge! These emotions stay buried, contributing to limiting beliefs and negative self views. It is not until this pent-up energy is expelled, expressed and processed in the presence of an understanding, safe and validating other that the emotion is released. Every emotion that you've never dealt with is still shut up in our child within. We can see the results in your daily life today. Our actions and reactions can be triggered by these frozen dissociations, wreaking havoc on our life until we thaw it out and begin to finally recover.<br /><br />How to Thaw Dissociated Feelings<br /><br />If we have issues in our life that are repetitive and you're unsure why, it is very likely be due to repressed dissociated emotions. Perhaps we have feelings that are frozen inside our child within like a cold block of ice. What do we do? How do we know the dissociations are there? How do we connect with what happened to us so long ago when we were a little child? That's what we're about to awaken.<br /><br />First, let me explain the positive benefits of expelling repressed dissociations. It's wonderful! Inside every bubble of blocked dissociation tucked inside our child within is a hidden piece of us. This part of us is repressed alongside the unfelt dissociation. When you face the pain and allow the emotional expression of our truth, we will also release parts of ourself we never knew existed. We will gain clarity we never thought we could have. We will become strengthened to win victory over situations that have oppressed us our whole life. The benefits will far outweigh the sacrifice.<br /><br />1. Getting to know our child within intimately. Spend time with ourselves. Journal. Do art. Find out who we are and how we are thinking and feeling. Keep a record of our reclaimed thoughts, our dreams, our actions and reactions. Dialog with ourself inside our recovered mind about what events trigger what thoughts and feelings. Use Kindfulness to know how we are feeling at any given moment. Notice the physical sensations that we feel in our body such as tightness in our chest, certain tastes on our tongue, pains in our body. Become the observer of our child within. <br /><br />2. Stay consciously aware of negative dissociated life patterns. The key to knowing what child within thoughts are being repressed, which are frozen and which are on fire inside of us is to stay awake. Ninety percent of what happens inside of us happens in our sub-conscious. We are not likely aware in the here-and-now that we're upset because our father refused to play with us when we were little. Our brain will try to project that on other people, or blame some other culprit more readily available.We will become dissociated.<br /><br />Patterns of negative behaviour and reactions that seem uncontrollable can be a great clue to where our repressed emotions/dissociations reside. This requires compassionate honesty and willingness to see the truth. It can be painful to look beyond your dissociated defences, but the results of locating these hidden emotions and expelling them completely is worth every effort. Our life will never be the same once we are free! All the problems that you've never been able to figure out will easily fall to pieces when you are free from blocked dissociations. Look for clues in what is happening to us TODAY so as to understand what happened to us long ago that you never got to process. <br /><br />3. Give ourself space to be, and to express our repressed dissociations. Just reading this blog starts the process of healing for our frozen dissociations. Reading this article is a way of tending to our child within, of honouring the potential lost part of us that is attached to the hurt and pain that is frozen inside. Bravo to you for reading this far... Now, we go a stage further and spend time with ourself and let ourself know that it is okay to be real now. This is child within work. It is the process of you re-recovering ourselves and telling ourself that although it was not okay to cry when we were little for whatever happened to us that hurt us, but that it is okay now. This is about being a compassionate loving  adult to our child within and giving ourself room to express what's been suppressed deep inside.<br /><br />Giving ourself space means turning from the ways we typically abandon and dissociate from ourself. This means staying sober to attend to the brokenness in our child within without dissociating. This means staying home and allowing ourself to be alone with our child within. This means giving up dissociations taking time off work, turning off the TV, fasting from the internet, forgoing golf--doing WHATEVER IT TAKES to give our child within space to feel and express what's deep down inside. <br /><br />5. Seeking out the root cause of the painful dissociations. We will have more clarity, understanding and release when we are able to pinpoint the actual cause of the original hurt. This could be something that happened to us on the playground as a kid, or something that our brother or sister did to us. Whatever the case, our knowledge of our dissociated moment bring more clarity when we know the exact moment of impact.<br /><br />6. Express the dissociated moment. Once you've discovered the dissociation to be released, we find a way to gently express what is there. our emotions are begging for release! Let it out! Cry, cry, cry, weep, do whatever we can to truly connect with the original source of the dissociation. We will know we've hit the mark when we can express the reason for the pain as being from long ago--like a child crying at the moment of being hurt. This is an incredibly cathartic experience! We will not be the same when it is over. <br /><br /><br />The process of expressing dissociations become very interesting. At first, we may be afraid to lean into the pain and seek out these negative, hurtful thoughts that scared us so badly that we've kept them hidden in our subconscious since day one--but let us tell you, there is nothing to fear!!! It is only when we are able to feel these feelings first hand that we will become free. Recovery comes with the expression of dissociations that we tried to ignore.<br /><br /><br /> 7. Find supportive member to confide in. our repressed, frozen dissociations are not for everyone. We want to be careful who we share your innermost dissociations with... however, we who are caring and loving and qualified to help us release our repressed dissociations. We make sure that we are capable of giving space and VALIDATING our dissociation. Without discussion, we cannot fully process what happened. The dissociations will not be fully released without the caring, validating presence of another. We are recovered during these connections.<br /><br />8. Find the negative core belief tied to the repressed dissociation. Once we discover our frozen dissociation, gently probe ourselves as to what beliefs stem from this hidden pain. What lies did we believe about ourself as a result of holding our dissociations inside. This becomes a fascinating process! Here is a list of potential negative core beliefs you may find tied to our repressed dissociations:<br /><br />We cannot be vulnerable, weakness makes us unlovable.<br />Never be alone because who we are is boring.<br />No one will ever love us because we are damaged.<br />We must be perfect to be accepted in this life.<br /><br />These imposed core beliefs are treacherous, and the reason for many of our failures to confront our dissociations. Getting to the root of these negative beliefs (which is repressed dissociations) will help our child within to logically re-think what it believes. It may not happen overnight, but our mind will begin to seek proofs that these beliefs are not true (with our gentle guidance), and soon, once we are recovered and free of the negative energy of dissociation, we will find that our beliefs have totally changed.<br /><br />9. Connect with our perfect child within source. We are a child within being. We cannot recover without connecting to the child within aspect of who we really are. The child within is what makes us ethereal, eternal and is where the ultimate power to recover is found. Without being connected to your child within source of love, assurance, trust and knowing, we will get relief, but not ultimate recovery. Ultimate Recovery requires an understanding of your child within nature. Healing and learning to love ourself requires a strong connection to the child within. Recovering and growing into a mature, happy, healthy and whole human being requires that we realise who we are--a child within. We must do whatever it takes to know, really know that!<br /><br />Conclusion<br /><br />Dissociations stay in our sub-conscious and control our life in negative ways. It's not that the dissociations are bad, per say. our dissociations are dissociations and each is valid and to be at the time of conception. The dissociations are not bad, it's the repression and denial of these dissociations that bring us numbness.Our feelings are energy that must be dealt with. Not dealing with feelings makes you contorted emotionally and can make the whole world seem distorted. It is up to us as an adult to embrace our child within, face the repressed sadness inside, and allow ourself space to unfold and experience what we rejected in us long ago. We cannot love ourself, we cannot see ourself, we cannot know ourself or anyone else to the fullest extent until we have felt all that we can feel in our recovery.<br /><br />It's time to recover...<br /><br />“In addition to reaching out for awakening, we will also need to reach within ourself. our biggest ally will be our dissociations. Through them, we will learn more about what really happened to us, how the abuse affected us, and what we need to do in order to recover. our dissociations will enable us to reclaim the child within we long ago hid away.”</span></div>

Loving yourself is about getting to know your child within. When you get to know who you are, your true essence, that's when you realise that you are recovering.

Loving yourself is about getting to know your child within. When you get to know who you are, your true essence, that's when you reali...

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First evidence of specific molecular changes in the body following a period of mindfulness meditation.

<span style="font-family: Courier New, Courier, monospace; font-size: large;"><br />New Research into Mindfulness<br /> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> </div> <br /> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> </div> <br /> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://1.bp.blogspot.com/-Nf13v7Z3foo/WMF-QThjHsI/AAAAAAAAbQs/FNvJd-6z5ZceZQPS1rnR5Kar0O0G7wEgACLcB/s1600/super-vision23.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="118" src="https://1.bp.blogspot.com/-Nf13v7Z3foo/WMF-QThjHsI/AAAAAAAAbQs/FNvJd-6z5ZceZQPS1rnR5Kar0O0G7wEgACLcB/s320/super-vision23.jpg" width="320" /></a></div> A new study by researchers in Wisconsin, Spain, and France reports the first evidence of specific molecular changes in the body following a period of mindfulness meditation.<br /><br />The study investigated the effects of a day of intensive mindfulness practice in a group of experienced meditators, compared to a group of untrained control subjects who engaged in quiet non-meditative activities. After eight hours of mindfulness practice, the meditators showed a range of genetic and molecular differences, including altered levels of gene-regulating machinery and reduced levels of pro-inflammatory genes, which in turn correlated with faster physical recovery from a stressful situation.<br /><br />“To the best of our knowledge, this is the first paper that shows rapid alterations in gene expression within subjects associated with mindfulness meditation practice,” says study author Richard J. Davidson, founder of the Center for Investigating Healthy Minds and the William James and Vilas Professor of Psychology and Psychiatry at the University of Wisconsin-Madison.<br /><br />“Most interestingly, the changes were observed in genes that are the current targets of anti-inflammatory and analgesic drugs,” says Perla Kaliman, first author of the article and a researcher at the Institute of Biomedical Research of Barcelona, Spain (IIBB-CSIC-IDIBAPS), where the molecular analyses were conducted.<br /><br />The study was published in the journal Psychoneuroendocrinology.<br /><br />Mindfulness-based trainings have shown beneficial effects on inflammatory disorders in prior clinical studies and are endorsed by the American Heart Association as a preventative intervention. The new results provide a possible biological mechanism for therapeutic effects.<br /><br />The results show a down-regulation of genes that have been implicated in inflammation. The affected genes include the pro-inflammatory genes RIPK2 and COX2 as well as several histone deacetylase (HDAC) genes, which regulate the activity of other genes epigenetically by removing a type of chemical tag. What’s more, the extent to which some of those genes were down regulated was associated with faster cortisol recovery to a social stress test involving an impromptu speech and tasks requiring mental calculations performed in front of an audience and video camera.<br /><br />Perhaps surprisingly, the researchers say, there was no difference in the tested genes between the two groups of people at the start of the study. The observed effects were seen only in the meditators following mindfulness practice. In addition, several other DNA-modifying genes showed no differences between groups, suggesting that the mindfulness practice specifically affected certain regulatory pathways.<br /><br />However, it is important to note that the study was not designed to distinguish any effects of long-term meditation training from those of a single day of practice. Instead, the key result is that meditators experienced genetic changes following mindfulness practice that were not seen in the non-meditating group after other quiet activities—an outcome providing proof of principle that mindfulness practice can lead to epigenetic alterations of the genome.<br /><br />Previous studies in rodents and in people have shown dynamic epigenetic responses to physical stimuli such as stress, diet, or exercise within just a few hours.<br /><br />“<i>Our genes are quite dynamic in their expression and these results suggest that the calmness of our mind can actually have a potential influence on their expression</i>,” Davidson says.<br /><br />“The regulation of HDACs and inflammatory pathways may represent some of the mechanisms underlying the therapeutic potential of mindfulness-based interventions,” Kaliman says. “Our findings set the foundation for future studies to further assess meditation strategies for the treatment of chronic inflammatory conditions.”</span><div> <br /></div>

First evidence of specific molecular changes in the body following a period of mindfulness meditation.

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Epigenetics can affect the genetic component of our behaviours.

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://3.bp.blogspot.com/-9Hz9XjBbRWE/WMF5b4IyM0I/AAAAAAAAbQY/Qil6Z2PrhUoX18fLWC5MeDGG-mrxftlVACLcB/s1600/28d128940948dac8336b9ff191b4891a.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="320" src="https://3.bp.blogspot.com/-9Hz9XjBbRWE/WMF5b4IyM0I/AAAAAAAAbQY/Qil6Z2PrhUoX18fLWC5MeDGG-mrxftlVACLcB/s320/28d128940948dac8336b9ff191b4891a.jpg" width="255" /></a></div> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">Anywhere from 30 to 50 percent of our behaviours are genetic and usually considered by mainstream psychology to be unchangeable. In other words, genes are our destiny. Fortunately in recent times that theory has been disproved by the new science called epigenetics. What my research explores is how the other components are changeable by simple logical actions.<br /><br />In 2008, the National Institutes of Health announced that $190 million had been earmarked for epigenetics research. In announcing the funding, government officials noted that epigenetics has the potential to explain mechanisms of ageing, human development, the origins of cancer, heart disease, mental illness and several other conditions. And more recently substantial evidence has been compiled to demonstrate how epigenetics can affect the genetic component of our behaviours.</span><br /> <div> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;"><br />The epigenome and genetic markers<br /><br />Genes can be thought of as the blueprints that provide the design for the human body and how it develops. The word genome—a combination of the words gene and chromosome—refers to the genetic information of any organism. The human genome is often called the “map” of our DNA.<br /><br />However, genes don’t make decisions about what they do or whether they’re turned on or off. An article in Discover magazine put it this way: “A human liver cell contains the same DNA as a brain cell, yet somehow it knows to code only those proteins needed for the functioning of the liver.”<br /><br />The gene follows instructions that aren’t in the genome, they’re in the epigenome, a word that means that it’s above the genome (epi means above). The chemical compounds of the epigenome tell a gene what to do. They’re also called “gene markers.” The Discover article suggests that we “think of the epigenome as a complex software code, capable of inducing the DNA hardware to manufacture an impressive variety of proteins, cell types, and individuals.”<br /><br />Mindfulness is a powerful technique that you can use to modify the expression of your genes. Psychology Today has called mindfulness “present moment awareness.” Here’s the description from their list of core concepts in the field of psychology:<br /><br /><br />Mindfulness is a state of active, open attention on the present. When you’re mindful, you observe your thoughts and feelings from a distance, without judging them good or bad. Instead of letting your life pass you by, mindfulness means living in the moment and awakening to experience.<br />Living in the moment<br /><br />Mindfulness is often referred to as “living in the moment.” To make any change, you must first be aware of what you’re thinking and feeling. In other words, you must be in your conscious mind. If you’re not, you won’t be able to focus on those essential changes that you want to make.<br /><br />In fact, the practice of mindfulness is critical to developing the state of consciousness you need to deal with every issue discussed in this book. For instance, if you’re focusing on managing your chronic stress you need to get into your conscious mind to realize that more stress doesn’t resolve stress.<br /><br />In our usual state of unconscious mind, we live in the past or future. That’s where worry just adds more stress. When you’re in your conscious mind you’re free of those past recordings or future anxieties that play as a voice in your head. In your conscious mind you can look at everything without judgment or bias. You can be creative.<br /><br />Mindfulness is a natural mental ability that’s available to anyone, regardless of education, culture, ethnicity or background. It’s a practical, natural way to be aware of your life, moment by moment. With daily practice of mindfulness, you can turn off your unconscious mind and participate in life as it unfolds.<br /><br />Mindfulness is not a way to run away from your problems. In fact, the opposite is true. It’s a state of self-awareness—the state in which world records are set, visionary concepts are developed, and you are at your peak efficiency.<br />Mindfulness and gene expression<br /><br />In 2013, a team of researchers from Spain, France, and the University of Wisconsin reported groundbreaking news. They found changes in gene expression in subjects who had practiced mindfulness meditation practice for just one day. The meditators showed reduced levels of pro-inflammatory genes. A control group did not show those beneficial changes.<br /><br />The leader of the study, Richard J. Davidson, stated: “To the best of our knowledge this is the first paper that shows rapid alterations in gene expression within subjects following mindfulness practice.” This outcome, against the control group, provided proof that mindfulness practice can lead to epigenetic alterations of the genome.<br /><br />Past studies have shown that mindfulness-based training has beneficial effects on inflammatory disorders. These new results show how that can happen. Meditation is endorsed by the American Heart Association as an effective way to lower your risk for heart disease, which is the leading cause of death in the United States.</span></div>

Epigenetics can affect the genetic component of our behaviours.

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We begin to experience how cultivating a Loving-Kindful way of life can radically transform the way we study the ten stages and enjoy day-to-day living

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://2.bp.blogspot.com/-8Wp_bIFB4LA/WMFL8KJnY2I/AAAAAAAAbP0/JA7L2vB6eLMJC8fuVCtL8zA4t2GyavK9ACLcB/s1600/Connected89.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="268" src="https://2.bp.blogspot.com/-8Wp_bIFB4LA/WMFL8KJnY2I/AAAAAAAAbP0/JA7L2vB6eLMJC8fuVCtL8zA4t2GyavK9ACLcB/s320/Connected89.jpg" width="320" /></a></div> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">We begin to experience how cultivating a Loving-Kindful way of life can radically transform the way we study the ten stages and enjoy day-to-day living, and help us form stronger connections with those around us. Chances are, we engage in a number of different activities and techniques each day to keep ourself grounded, to truly value the wonder in our life, and to keep our mind calm yet active.<br /><br />But regardless of the bounteous rewards, putting an effort into Kindful living takes a certain degree of maturity and discipline, so the idea of encouraging our child within to follow suit may seem counterintuitive. This needn’t be the case. Maturity and discipline are self-perpetuating: if we can help our child within onto the first rung of this deeper level of awareness, we’ll be better prepared to continue on that path ourselves—and the rewards for our child Within can be even more fulfilling than those for adults!</span><br /> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;"><br />The rewards of Kindful living for child Within<br /><br />The Child Within is particularly suited to Kindful living due to the enchanting combination of curiosity and vulnerability that we still possess. A Kindful approach can help our child Within to become reconciled to these two apparently polar-opposite personality traits. This approach will give us the courage to explore our environment and the awareness that we need to look out for in ourselves and others.<br /><br /> Kindful loving can promote empathy and emotional control in our child within, characteristics that are invaluable in both life and action scenarios, and will also be advantageous throughout those bewildering reconciliation years that lead into our new adulthood. Our Child within will intuit how to deal with bullying, and be less likely to default to such cruelty themselves when they feel the inevitable frustrations of life</span><span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">. Teaching the ten stages our child Kindfulness, and we’ll learn to develop our own methods through which to expand on this new relationship with ourselves.</span><br /> <div> <div> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;"><br />However, it isn’t just social skills that’ll improve. Cognitive control and performance increase as a result of Kindful approaches. There’s no time more valuable than contact with our child within to ensure that we</span><span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;"> are equipped with the tools and kindset needed to analyse all we are re-taught and to pursue our curiosity in meditation</span><span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">. Of course, this doesn’t mean just getting through our practice and daily meditation</span><span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">, but learning to apply our newly found knowledge to the things we find fascinating in our world and make connections between them.</span></div> <div> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;"><br /></span></div> <div> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">Diving into the practice<br /><br />If you’ve already suspected that our child within</span><span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;"> will benefit from making use of  Kindfulness techniques we use from day to day, by now, you may be totally convinced. </span></div> <div> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;"><br />If the child within we wish to teach these skills to are very traumatised, you really don’t need to be concerned with explaining all the whys and wherefores. Rather, gently move</span><span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;"> straight into the practice of truth, trust and consent, and worry about the program</span><span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;"> later. Look at the way our child within spend its time and suggest tweaking their dissociations that’ll broaden their experience of the simplest daily pursuits. Make things with them, play with them, and encourage them to pay attention to the minutiae of what you’re doing—the smell of the grass, the way the earth feels between their fingers, the explosion of flavours that the food on their plates ignites inside of their mouths.</span></div> <div> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;"><br />For our children within who have begun to get used to the practice, you can start applying more truth, trust and consent</span><span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">. Find them an blog</span><span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;"> such as Loving-Kindfulness</span><span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">, and tools that they can experiment with building their</span><span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;"> own practice</span><span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;"> independently. Set time aside on the weekend for Kindful walks. </span></div> <div> <div> <br /></div> </div> </div>

We begin to experience how cultivating a Loving-Kindful way of life can radically transform the way we study the ten stages and enjoy day-to-day living

We begin to experience how cultivating a Loving-Kindful way of life can radically transform the way we study the ten stages and enjoy day-...

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Dreams are the royal road to the unconscious.

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://4.bp.blogspot.com/-FWy3RaWGlbk/V08JjUveB4I/AAAAAAAAWX4/qyJ314_2-HcUJfq1cWLd2Ayrp-d3nnmNACPcB/s1600/dreamwarrior%2B897.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="213" src="https://4.bp.blogspot.com/-FWy3RaWGlbk/V08JjUveB4I/AAAAAAAAWX4/qyJ314_2-HcUJfq1cWLd2Ayrp-d3nnmNACPcB/s320/dreamwarrior%2B897.jpg" width="320" /></a></div> <span style="font-size: large;">“Dreams are the royal road to the unconscious.” If we want to know what’s going on down there in the basement of our mind , you need look no further than our dreams. The only problem with understanding our dreams is that they express our deepest truth entirely in code – through metaphor. Everything in a dream has meaning, and the hard work of decoding the symbols of our dreams – that is, getting to know the symbols of our own unconscious – will bring us right in touch with the depths of who we are, and what our unconscious conflicts really are. This is tough work, and often humbling and ugly, but if we can hang with it, the rewards will be well worth the effort!</span>

Dreams are the royal road to the unconscious.

“Dreams are the royal road to the unconscious.” If we want to know what’s going on down there in the basement of our mind , you need look ...

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Full RECOVERY is a consequence of the full resolution of our traumas.

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://4.bp.blogspot.com/-GNFtjN3tyUQ/TzQLzivXFBI/AAAAAAAAKeU/6CK0UsXCw9UD94XrGARLCQrkAK00NLIlwCPcB/s1600/1-1-banus2-002.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="187" src="https://4.bp.blogspot.com/-GNFtjN3tyUQ/TzQLzivXFBI/AAAAAAAAKeU/6CK0UsXCw9UD94XrGARLCQrkAK00NLIlwCPcB/s320/1-1-banus2-002.jpg" width="320" /></a></div> <br /> <div class="zemanta-related" style="-webkit-text-stroke-width: 0px; clear: both; color: black; font-family: Times; font-size: medium; font-style: normal; font-variant-caps: normal; font-variant-ligatures: normal; font-weight: normal; letter-spacing: normal; margin-top: 20px; orphans: 2; overflow: hidden; text-align: left; text-indent: 0px; text-transform: none; white-space: normal; widows: 2; word-spacing: 0px;"> </div> <br /> <span style="font-family: Courier New, Courier, monospace; font-size: large;">RECOVERY is the conscious awareness of truth. Everyone who has any consciousness is enlightened to a degree, but where we are blocked from having resolved our own traumas of childhood – or adulthood – We will be blocked from our awareness of full reality. Full RECOVERY is a consequence of the full resolution of our traumas.</span>

Full RECOVERY is a consequence of the full resolution of our traumas.

RECOVERY is the conscious awareness of truth. Everyone who has any consciousness is enlightened to a degree, but where we are blocked ...

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Live, let go, and don't worry about what you can't change.

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://2.bp.blogspot.com/-LkKplBwbkxI/VdaiCVxdHpI/AAAAAAAATdI/bo-s1HuSKdg06Jj4b39j1pR4qoF3gPU9ACPcB/s1600/on%2Bearth.jpeg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://2.bp.blogspot.com/-LkKplBwbkxI/VdaiCVxdHpI/AAAAAAAATdI/bo-s1HuSKdg06Jj4b39j1pR4qoF3gPU9ACPcB/s1600/on%2Bearth.jpeg" /></a></div> <span style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: large;">Live, let go, and don't worry about what you can't change. </span><br style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /><span style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: large;">There is a major difference between trying to prove your recovery and simply sharing your recovery. You have to stop being a walk on part, a bit part actor in our stage play.</span><br style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /><br style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /><span style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: large;">A manipulator of the scenery. A director without a cast. I can’t tell you how many times I have tried in the past to prove my recovery. I realised that I kept doing this because I had yet to truly realise how worthy, understanding and spiritual I was. If I had really known this, I wouldn’t have been trying to prove it to other people or needed an audience. A lot of people suffer from trying to prove themselves to unavailable people in recovery.</span><br style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /><br style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /><span style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: large;">Acting in front of self absorbed people is a waste of time. Everyone else wants to be the star. The Slate is Recovery , Sound, Rolling, Action,.... your on set, Here’s an exercise: Make a list of all the things you wish other people would see about you. You wish what? They would see how spiritual, awesome, loving, supporting, caring, etc. you are? Make the list… Now, ask yourself if you are demonstrating these qualities toward yourself?</span><br style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /><br style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /><span style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: large;">The answer is probably no for some or all of the qualities you listed. So, how would you act if you were actually demonstrating these qualities? That version of you is who will attract people who see you. When you see you, other people will too.</span><br style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /><br style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /><span style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: large;">Then, you can SHARE your gifts, your understanding of your program and your worth with them and receive their worth, gifts and understanding. This is different than trying to prove yourself to someone else. Its really what SHARING is about. What we often do is vent not share. When we try to prove ourselves to others, it is because we do not see our great qualities and are not giving these qualities to ourselves. Once we do, we step into a new paradigm and walk away from trying to prove ourselves and step into just being our spiritual selves.</span><br style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /><br style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" /><span style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: large;">Then understanding, authenticity and all the spirituality can emerge. The ten stages help to make this shift from actor to participant. You can you step out of proving yourself and into being yourself with a comprehensive program of recovery thats called GROWTH.</span><br style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: x-large;" />

Live, let go, and don't worry about what you can't change.

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The world of parents/caregivers struggling with their own dissociations that lead to your addictions

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://3.bp.blogspot.com/-d30DgWeVrJA/WLvviGbn-bI/AAAAAAAAbN4/c7nNMhEzG84H3ZHnw80_cPHfvuhHFjrMgCLcB/s1600/Drean%2BWarrior%2BRecovery1.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="118" src="https://3.bp.blogspot.com/-d30DgWeVrJA/WLvviGbn-bI/AAAAAAAAbN4/c7nNMhEzG84H3ZHnw80_cPHfvuhHFjrMgCLcB/s320/Drean%2BWarrior%2BRecovery1.jpg" width="320" /></a></div> <span style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: large;">The world of parents/caregivers struggling with their own dissociations that lead to our addictions and — their own, their parents/caregivers, their spouses — and gives us clear guidelines about how to speak to, and work with, these families. It will also help us address the personal issues that may arise for us as we begin this process of our recovery.</span>

The world of parents/caregivers struggling with their own dissociations that lead to your addictions

The world of parents/caregivers struggling with their own dissociations that lead to our addictions and — their own, their parents/caregiv...

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We believe that the very essence of trauma is powerlessness.

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://1.bp.blogspot.com/-BfjAAy6L24Q/WLqJm3m4rBI/AAAAAAAAbMk/3ENveAiWfDUlB2ltxHnEv3Gud7Y3cI-xwCLcB/s1600/4e5bfe8e96bfb7b27493186959366aaf.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="274" src="https://1.bp.blogspot.com/-BfjAAy6L24Q/WLqJm3m4rBI/AAAAAAAAbMk/3ENveAiWfDUlB2ltxHnEv3Gud7Y3cI-xwCLcB/s320/4e5bfe8e96bfb7b27493186959366aaf.jpg" width="320" /></a></div> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">We believe that the very essence of trauma is powerlessness. It is that unavoidable, inescapable overwhelm of suffering that we can do nothing about. Some of us learn that it’s best never to struggle, to just accept the freeze response and lie still under the danger passes. Perhaps by freezing, perhaps by submitting, it will be over with more quickly and we will be hurt less in the process. Lie still under the danger passes … But then, in our minds, the danger never passes, and so we live our lives inhibited by an eternal learned helplessness. We feel inept and incapable and stupid and weak, because when it really mattered, when our lives were at risk, we couldn't even move a muscle.</span>

We believe that the very essence of trauma is powerlessness.

We believe that the very essence of trauma is powerlessness. It is that unavoidable, inescapable overwhelm of suffering that we can do not...

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The fellowships force us down a blind alley in our recovery

<span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">usThe Ten Stages contemplates</span><br /> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;"><a href="https://4.bp.blogspot.com/-A86NHMZuCSc/WJcJLw3nTwI/AAAAAAAAaQM/enswtokpIu4MCjHAo7axCLppAPcFX4yUACPcB/s1600/the-path-of-resistance-herohome-636x363.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="182" src="https://4.bp.blogspot.com/-A86NHMZuCSc/WJcJLw3nTwI/AAAAAAAAaQM/enswtokpIu4MCjHAo7axCLppAPcFX4yUACPcB/s320/the-path-of-resistance-herohome-636x363.jpg" width="320" /></a></span></div> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">  self-reflection on where our acting out behaviour might have come from we make an acknowledgement that our disturbed patterns are simply a replication of the traumas done to us when we were vulnerable and innocent and powerless in our families as a child, We will not admit all the bad things that we have done to others, and not only that, we will not cement this list of our badness into place by admitting it to this externalised God (which we are not convinced is separate from the essence of us!) and to us who buy into this deluded and dissociative philosophy.</span><br /> <div> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;"><br /></span></div> <div> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">The fellowships force us</span><span style="font-family: "courier new", courier, monospace; font-size: large;"> down a blind alley, and further cutting ourself off the from deeper root of ourself and our child within.</span></div>

The fellowships force us down a blind alley in our recovery

usThe Ten Stages contemplates  self-reflection on where our acting out behaviour might have come from we make an acknowledgement that ou...

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Having completed the ten stages we awaken with shock at the devastating impact of our traumatisation, and to the costs of our dissociations.

<span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;"><br /></span> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://3.bp.blogspot.com/-yksze--Ps1M/WLqBq_eBMpI/AAAAAAAAbMQ/0Pk1CWIs8WsUeFMK5hHI48CeDOWaY5DzwCLcB/s1600/assign89.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="268" src="https://3.bp.blogspot.com/-yksze--Ps1M/WLqBq_eBMpI/AAAAAAAAbMQ/0Pk1CWIs8WsUeFMK5hHI48CeDOWaY5DzwCLcB/s320/assign89.jpg" width="320" /></a></div> <div> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;"><a href="http://thetenstages.blogspot.co.uk/" target="_blank">Having completed the ten stages </a>we awaken with shock at the devastating impact of our traumatisation, and to the costs of our dissociations. We see with heartbreak the decimation of relationships and our original family. We realise with horror that they never grew into their full, conscious capacity, but instead remained wounded, troubled children who were easy to exploit and ready to exploit in turn. And so we rebel, but wildly, unconsciously. We see that our unconscious child within has not only poisoned the planet but poisoned every new generation we mindlessly create. Awakened to this nightmare, we scream with protests and movements of various kinds to stop social deception. As we fight to heal our outer world we begin to heal our inner world—and step toward inner, integrated truth. We begin to sense that we have lost our way and our child hidden within. We seek a better way of being recovered. And as we become increasingly conscious, we start to evolve into a new, true, and sustainable life.<br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /></span></div>

Having completed the ten stages we awaken with shock at the devastating impact of our traumatisation, and to the costs of our dissociations.

Having completed the ten stages we awaken with shock at the devastating impact of our traumatisation, and to the costs of our dissociati...

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