Get out of the way. Try to position yourself so as to side-step the attentions of shadow selves.

Don’t take it personally. Shadow Selves are far more focused on themselves than on you.
Don’t blame yourself. Shadows operate in a self-serving mode and when they mistreat you, it’s usually not because of anything you are, said, did, or failed to do.
Don’t compete. Shadows live for the competition and fight dirty. They are not typically gracious losers.Take care of yourself. Taking care of a shadow self can be like feeding a black hole, so take care of your own needs first.
Find support. Surround yourself with ten stagers who appreciate you just as you are.
Get out of the way. Try to position yourself so as to side-step the attentions of shadow selves.