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You will find favour with someone you don't expect « 10 STAGES RECOVERY EMPATHY PRACTICE

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You will find favour with someone you don't expect « 10 STAGES RECOVERY EMPATHY PRACTICE I will shorty be leaving, but I will keep in ...

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 <a href="http://10stages.blogspot.co.uk/2009/08/you-will-find-favour-with-someone-you.html#comment-form">You will find favour with someone you don't expect « 10 STAGES RECOVERY EMPATHY PRACTICE</a> I will shorty be leaving, but I will keep in touch both directly and threw Dream Warrior.To those I have had the joy of sponsoring I hope to be returning one day at a time with the higher powers grace.The journey I have set on is drawing to a close and it is apt and proper that I should acknowledge the help I have received. Once more my program has evolved in new and exciting ways.I wish I had more time but unfortunately I have not.I have had to face new challenges and that is a miracle.I have made many new friends and renewed old friendships.The higher power has once more touched my life and instituted profound change.This was emailed to me by a great friend. (1) You will find favour with someone you don't expect. (2) You will be too relevant to be ignored. (3) You will encounter the higher power and will never remain the same. (4) The grace for completion will come on you, you shall be blessed. (5) The hand that will send this message to others shall not labour in vain. (6) The mouth saying ''Amen'' to this prayer shall laugh forever. Very, Very, soon and I say Very, Very, Very soon, The higher power is going to do a miracle and lift u up 4 GOOD.

You will find favour with someone you don't expect « 10 STAGES RECOVERY EMPATHY PRACTICE

You will find favour with someone you don't expect « 10 STAGES RECOVERY EMPATHY PRACTICE I will shorty be leaving, but I will keep in ...

We belong to our child hidden within. We must remember if we are to become real and true, we belong to ourselves

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Title: We belong to our child hidden within. We must remember if we are to become real and true, we belong to ourselves
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We belong to our child hidden within. We must remember if we are to become real and true, we belong to ourselves, to reality and to tru...

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We belong to our child hidden within. We must remember if we are to become real and true, we belong to ourselves, to reality and to truth and not the closed limits of our childhoods. Despite the common thinking that argues we belong to our parents, our families, our culture and its values and traditions, this is not true. We do not belong to limited people or systems that would confine our growth and damage our spirit. We belong to ourselves and our hidden child within and must leave the limits of our upbringing to live in our reclaimed reality. But there is a struggle. There is great pressure from our families and the conventional world to stay behind and honour mother and father and their world no matter how limited, dysfunctional or cruel and it takes an gifted child within to leave it. We were born into this world and our departure has a heartbreaking aspect to it since it is hard to see the failures of our first loves, mother and father and face the limits of our original culture. Those who did not have the courage to explore their own child within will always resent those who do. In fact those who stay behind will work hard to shame, guilt, withhold love and even shun those who escape the snares of a closed, cultist family system. This is a sad and cruel manipulation. Those who stay behind see those who leave as a threatening reminder of what they failed to do to become themselves, true amalgamated children within. The free spirit of those who left reveals the closed prison of those who took the easier path of conformity and stayed behind. The troubling gas-lighting and manipulations of the family to return to their world do not work. Those who have tasted freedom and belong to life and its mystery do not return to the prison of safety and convention. Rather these free spirits soar to higher realms of consciousness and wonder, unknown to the average.We begin to experience the shine of freedom as our false lives drop away.

We belong to our child hidden within. We must remember if we are to become real and true, we belong to ourselves

We belong to our child hidden within. We must remember if we are to become real and true, we belong to ourselves, to reality and to tru...

It is not just victims of addiction/dissociation, sexual abuse and other brutality who carry trauma—we all do.

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Title: It is not just victims of addiction/dissociation, sexual abuse and other brutality who carry trauma—we all do.
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It is not just victims of addiction/dissociation, sexual abuse and other brutality who carry trauma—we all do. We are all traumatised ...

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It is not just victims of addiction/dissociation, sexual abuse and other brutality who carry trauma—we all do. We are all traumatised due to childhood misfortune and our collective ancestral insanity. Through our observations of our own child within, of the people we work with our observations of our own troubled community, We soon realise that our species carries a tragic legacy of ancestral trauma. From the mists of time, when our human species first emerged, until now, we have misused our capacity of consciousness to become clever, brutal, overpopulating animals and not self-aware stewards of life. This misuse of mind has wounded us, traumatised us. We have blamed our destructive ways on our flawed human nature, the evil Other, or even on original sin. But this is not true. Trauma is the culprit that distorts our perception of reality. Our essential human nature is good. As we grieve and heal our traumatic past, we begin to know that our essence is true and our greatest hope. When we heal our traumatic history, our true self the child within begins to interface with truth. With truth as our guide, we can do the real work of life which is to evolve consciousness to the next level of understanding. When we experience this true purpose, we experience an abiding faith in the goodness of life and our role in it. No matter the cruelty and confusion of our world around us, our life takes on a new meaning that inspires hope in ourselves and others for a new future.

It is not just victims of addiction/dissociation, sexual abuse and other brutality who carry trauma—we all do.

It is not just victims of addiction/dissociation, sexual abuse and other brutality who carry trauma—we all do. We are all traumatised ...

It takes time to study the ten stages. We must proceed day by day, unraveling the damage that confounds the full expression of our identity.

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Title: It takes time to study the ten stages. We must proceed day by day, unraveling the damage that confounds the full expression of our identity.
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It takes time to study the ten stages. We must proceed day by day, unraveling the damage that confounds the full expression of our ide...

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It takes time to study the ten stages.  We must proceed day by day, unraveling the damage that confounds the full expression of our identity.  Our abuses run deep for they were inflicted practically from our first breath.  The painstaking work of loving all the lost parts of our child within back to life, vitality, and full expression must be done day by day, throughout this bright New Year. Today we begin the journey back to our child within and to truth.  We take the hand of our frightened child within who was shamed into believing it was of little value and hold this child in our care and protection.  We comfort this terrified child, buried within us, who hid for safe-keeping until this very moment.  We open the prison gates with our love and breathe life into this forgotten existence. Today we begin a journey through a New Year.  Slowly, through the days of this new time, we develop our dishonoured child into the fulfilled adult that life intended.</blockquote>

It takes time to study the ten stages. We must proceed day by day, unraveling the damage that confounds the full expression of our identity.

It takes time to study the ten stages. We must proceed day by day, unraveling the damage that confounds the full expression of our ide...

From the minute we are born, we are piled on with conditionings imposed upon us from our society that shape our behaviour and our mentality.

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Title: From the minute we are born, we are piled on with conditionings imposed upon us from our society that shape our behaviour and our mentality.
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Our human condition is not always easy. We have to pretend we are interested in things we are not for the sake of social convention. There...

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Our human condition is not always easy. We have to pretend we are interested in things we are not for the sake of social convention. There is a socially acceptable way to eat, speak, and behave. And heaven forbid we should ever dress inappropriately. That could literally end you up in prison. From the minute we are born, we are piled on with conditionings imposed upon us from our society that shape our behaviour and our mentality.The Ten Stages challenges many of these mis-conceptions.

From the minute we are born, we are piled on with conditionings imposed upon us from our society that shape our behaviour and our mentality.

Our human condition is not always easy. We have to pretend we are interested in things we are not for the sake of social convention. There...

The Ten Stages challenges conventional thinking.

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Title: The Ten Stages challenges conventional thinking.
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Sometimes it happens that a particular observation or finding can jolt one's mind into adopting a new frame of reference. A way of thi...

The Ten Stages challenges conventional thinking.

Sometimes it happens that a particular observation or finding can jolt one's mind into adopting a new frame of reference. A way of thi...

Who Is Abusing the Kids?

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Title: Who Is Abusing the Kids?
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The answer may surprise you. It is most commonly not the proverbial "stranger" that most children are warned to avoid - it is mo...

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 The answer may surprise you. It is most commonly not the proverbial "stranger" that most children are warned to avoid - it is more likely to be someone much closer to home 
 
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<li>Discount your thoughts, opinions and contributions?</li>
<li>Perceive children as personal property, to command as the parent wished?</li>
<li>Disrespect family members</li>
<li>Withhold affection?</li>
<li>Treat your partner as less than an equal partner?</li>
<li>Avoid participation in family /school functions?</li>
<li>Usually put work and own interests ahead of those of the family?</li>
<li>Make promises, only to routinely disappoint?</li>
<li>Was aggressive or abusive toward family members?</li>
<li>Need to be right / in control at all times?</li>
<li>Rage?</li>
<li>"Disown” you for disappointing?</li>
<li>Shame you privately or in front of others?</li>
<li>Was the parent there for family and friends when they needed him?</li>
<li>Embarrass you, humiliate you or ignore you?</li>
<li>Ever abuse you - psychologically, verbally, physically or sexually?</li>
<li>Blame failures on others or make excuses for his bad behaviour?</li>
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Who Is Abusing the Kids?

The answer may surprise you. It is most commonly not the proverbial "stranger" that most children are warned to avoid - it is mo...

Get out of the way. Try to position yourself so as to side-step the attentions of shadow selves.

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Title: Get out of the way. Try to position yourself so as to side-step the attentions of shadow selves.
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Don’t take it personally. Shadow Selves are far more focused on themselves than on you. Don’t blame yourself. Shadows operate in a self-s...

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Don’t take it personally. Shadow Selves are far more focused on themselves than on you. 
Don’t blame yourself. Shadows operate in a self-serving mode and when they mistreat you, it’s usually not because of anything you are, said, did, or failed to do. 
Don’t compete. Shadows live for the competition and fight dirty. They are not typically gracious losers.Take care of yourself. Taking care of a shadow self can be like feeding a black hole, so take care of your own needs first. 
Find support. Surround yourself with ten stagers who appreciate you just as you are. 
Get out of the way. Try to position yourself so as to side-step the attentions of shadow selves.

Get out of the way. Try to position yourself so as to side-step the attentions of shadow selves.

Don’t take it personally. Shadow Selves are far more focused on themselves than on you. Don’t blame yourself. Shadows operate in a self-s...

When the Self Drowns Out All Else swamped by the shadow self

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Title: When the Self Drowns Out All Else swamped by the shadow self
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When the Self Drowns Out All Else swamped by the shadow self, at war with the child within and creates a strong aversion to the truth or...

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When the Self Drowns Out All Else swamped by the shadow self, at war with the child within and creates a strong aversion to the truth or reality of the personal perfect child within The patterns of shadow self behaviour include egotism, an unhealthy need for attention, an inflated sense of entitlement, and obliviousness to the rights, needs and wants of others – unless they are somehow useful. These are self-centred ways of relating to others What It Feels Like: Living with or being involved with a person with a shadow self obsession can be mentally and emotionally exhausting. It can feel like you have to perform “mental gymnastics” from dealing with the lying (even when confronted with undeniable proof), the gas-lighting, the triangulation, the projection, the constant contradictions, the manipulation, blame-shifting, the charm they lay on, the inflated sense of self - even subtle forms of torture, such as sleep-deprivation these people inflict on their victims - appears to be conscious and calculated to push the target of their “affections” past their limits, into surrender - and ultimately into total compliance - as a source of Supply. Children, spouses, friends, lovers - those closest to a shadow self - are not considered individuals in their own right by the shadow self - but rather extensions or, in the worst cases, the property of the constructed shadow self. Even after finding out that you are dealing with a disordered self, if you don’t protect or remove yourself from the situation, you may find yourself entering into a state of mind where you instinctively try to fix or fight the shadow self’s illogical attitudes and behaviours. You may find yourself becoming hyper-vigilant, trying to second guess them, trip them up, lay down ultimatums, call them on their lies, or constantly trying to stay one-step ahead of their ever-changing rule-book. You may even find yourself trying to mirror their behaviours to some extent in order to manipulate them, as they have manipulated you. This can be both futile and attractive to the shadow self, as they often relish the challenge. If you ever do manage to get “one-up” on the shadow, it is likely to be a hollow “victory” at best. They may rage, play the victim, or disappear. None of these outcomes gives the victim any true satisfaction. The Shadow Self has the characteristics of vampiric lifestyle, attaching themselves to us in a way that drains us of your resources (emotional, mental and financial) and leaves us questioning our own self-worth and sanity. Often, they are able to imitate or approximate caring about others when it is convenient for them to do so. However, they typically do not perceive that anything outside of their own sphere of wants and needs matters. It simply doesn’t occur to them to consider the needs of anyone else, or the long-term consequences of their own behaviours. They can be highly intelligent, witty, talented, likeable, and fun to be around. They can also elicit sympathy like nobody’s business. The shadows are opportunistic. They can make a show of being “generous” but their generosity usually has strings attached. They tend to isolate their victims, sucking up their time and energy, many times robbing their own families, spouses and partners of an external support system. They are excellent liars and many prefer to lie, even when telling the truth would be more beneficial to them. This suggests that lying is a hallmark of their pathology. They are often highly competitive and argumentative. They lash out when presented with opinions that contradict their own or when confronted with their own lies or  behaviours. They can be calculating and extremely persuasive and susceptible to erratic thinking and impulsive decision making. Shadow Selves can be self-destructive as often as they are destructive to others. They have a great deal of trouble accepting responsibility for their own actions, under any circumstance. Shadow Selves have the propensity to becoming addictive personalities and shadow selves are commonly co-morbid with addictions to drugs, alcohol, sex, food, spending and gambling. Shadow selves are rarely alone. They like to feed on the energy of others, and to have an audience to reflect back to them the person they want to see themselves as, and are drawn to standard recovery groups. Shadow Selves are good at pretending, but typically do not feel compassion or empathy or consider the feelings or well-being of others. They tend to be singularly focused on getting their own needs met, at the expense of the needs of others. While shadow selves generally portray a lack of conscience, they typically have an intellectual awareness of what they are doing and how they hurt others. They simply do not care. Being kind to a shadow self in the face of their maltreatment is a common approach of family members and partners. However, this can result in further frustration as it is rarely reciprocated and tends to feed their sense of entitlement, opening the door for more abuse. Other feelings you may experience when dealing with a shadow self in the home or at work: You may feel like this person readily puts you down just to elevate themselves. You may find yourself avoiding them because trying to communicate with them leaves you feeling confused, put-down, reduced to a lesser status and emptied of all that you know you really are. You may feel overwhelmed, “out-gunned”, tongue-tied or overpowered in their presence. You may feel blown away by their powerful personality, self-assuredness, self-belief and self-confidence. Your own legitimate needs may be taking a back seat to their own frivolous, self-serving ambitions. When receiving a compliment or apology, you may be left feeling patronised, demeaned, brought down to size and even humiliated. You may attempt to compromise with them - only to realise later you are the only one who gave any substantial ground. You may feel like your hard work and contributions are only being used, abused and distorted to meet the selfish ambitions of another. Living with a person who has a pronounced shadow self can have a devastating effect on our self-esteem, confidence and quality of life for all family members, friends and partners. Students sometimes feel as though the shadow self of another is refusing to “grow up” or will revert back to childish ways whenever it suits them. The Student often feels used, cheated and taken advantage of by the shadow self in their life. 
 
The Ten Stages uses Loving-Kindfulness as a taught course and numerous meditational practices to counter this pathology within side its taught courses and seeks to identify this behaviour within itself and others shining the light into the shadow and banishing the pathology with confrontation and strong independent kindfulness first to our selves as a counter balance to dysfunction.

When the Self Drowns Out All Else swamped by the shadow self

When the Self Drowns Out All Else swamped by the shadow self, at war with the child within and creates a strong aversion to the truth or...

Examination of our shadow self is directly related to our beginning to take responsibility for our dissociation projections—in short, to our beginning to truly grow up.

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Title: Examination of our shadow self is directly related to our beginning to take responsibility for our dissociation projections—in short, to our beginning to truly grow up.
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Examination of our shadow self is directly related to our beginning to take responsibility for our dissociation projections—in short, to o...

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Examination of our shadow self is directly related to our beginning to take responsibility for our dissociation projections—in short, to our beginning to truly grow up. We begin to move beyond our shadow selfs victim-consciousness, the tendency to blame the world for our struggles, and the tendency to see in others what we most dislike about ourselves. This part of the ten stages is often characterised by experiencing the emotion of grief, and allowing ourselves to truly grieve painful incidents from our past that we may have long buried. Repressed or with-held pain keeps us dry and contracted. These dissociated knots of pain need to be dissolved via permitting ourselves to truly experience the pain with awareness, as opposed to avoiding it with endless distractions, narcotisations (mind-altering substances like drugs or alcohol, including excessive T.V. watching), or endless other forms of dissociations. In many cases the stage of dissolution is forced on a person by unexpected accidents or illnesses. If a right attitude is brought to bear on such apparent misfortunes, overall maturing and growth will inevitabaly result. A key to the stage of Dissolution is the awakening of passion, and the harnessing of the energy of emotional pain toward an object of creativity. We do not just passively witness the reality of our inner pain; we redirect its energy, wedding it to our authentic personal desires and constructive aims. In so doing we are participating and aiding in the dissolving of our false shadow self. We are using the energy freed up by letting go of old, stale dissociated coping strategies, in the service of re-aligning our life in the direction of our child withins purpose.

Examination of our shadow self is directly related to our beginning to take responsibility for our dissociation projections—in short, to our beginning to truly grow up.

Examination of our shadow self is directly related to our beginning to take responsibility for our dissociation projections—in short, to o...

Learning to let go of constructed mental positions, pride, excessive stubbornness, reactive blame of others

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Title: Learning to let go of constructed mental positions, pride, excessive stubbornness, reactive blame of others
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INTULEXIA :The expression from the book A Course In Miracles, ‘Would you rather be right or happy?’ speaks, in a simplified fashion. The s...

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INTULEXIA :The expression from the book A Course In Miracles, ‘Would you rather be right or happy?’ speaks, in a simplified fashion. The shadow-self cares primarily about being right—right that we know, or right that we are not good enough, or right that we are too good, or right that we are a powerless victim, or right that we cannot trust life or love owing to previous experiences, and so on. Calcination is the process of beginning to get that part of our stubbornness, pride, and arrogance worn down. (This stubbornness, pride, or arrogance need not only express as an outwardly puffed up nature; indeed, more commonly it tends to disguise itself in shyness, self-doubt, or self-sabotage). The sooner we understand the point that in most cases we are the architect of our own frustrations and failures, the better, because we can avoid years of unnecessary suffering. Ideally the recovery path is about hastening the process of calcination, rather than it being drawn out over the course of a whole life, only to realise in old age just how intransigent and controlling we have always been. The reason why this process is so essential is because the personality we cling to, the sense of personal identity, the ‘me’ that we invest so much energy in maintaining, is ultimately illusory, based as it is on identification (with body, form, history, borrowed knowledge, and so on). Ageing 
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, and eventually death, will wear down and destroy this false self in time. Learning to let go of constructed mental positions, pride, excessive stubbornness, reactive blame of others, playing small owing to crippling self-doubt, and fear of confronting our falsehoods, will hasten the process and potentially give us more time to experience our deeper nature while still alive.

Learning to let go of constructed mental positions, pride, excessive stubbornness, reactive blame of others

INTULEXIA :The expression from the book A Course In Miracles, ‘Would you rather be right or happy?’ speaks, in a simplified fashion. The s...

From the ultimate viewpoint there is no view whatsoever.

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Title: From the ultimate viewpoint there is no view whatsoever.
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The rainbow, fog, and mist, Arising as they do from the firmament, Vanish and recede back into it. Honey, fruit, and crops grow out of th...

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 The rainbow, fog, and mist, Arising as they do from the firmament, Vanish and recede back into it. Honey, fruit, and crops grow out of the earth; All vanish and recede back into it… Self-awareness, self-illumination, and self-liberation, Arising as they do from the Mind-Essence, All vanish and dissolve back into the mind… He who realizes the nature of the mind, Sees the great Illumination without coming and going, Observing the nature of all outer forms, He realizes that they are but illusory visions of the mind. He sees also the identity of the Void and the Form… Discrimination of ‘the two’ is the source of all wrong views. From the ultimate viewpoint there is no view whatsoever.</blockquote>

From the ultimate viewpoint there is no view whatsoever.

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There is an instant in which terror seems to grip your mind so wholly that escape appears quite hopeless.

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There is an instant in which terror seems to grip your mind so wholly that escape appears quite hopeless. When you realise, once and for a...

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There is an instant in which terror seems to grip your mind so wholly that escape appears quite hopeless. When you realise, once and for all, that it is you you fear, the mind perceives itself as split. And this had been concealed while you believed attack could be directed outward, and returned from outside to within. It seemed to be an enemy from outside you had to fear. And thus a god outside yourself became your mortal enemy; the source of fear. Now, for an instant, is a murderer perceived within you, eager for your death, intent on plotting punishment for you until the time when it can kill at last. (ACIM Workbook, #19}

There is an instant in which terror seems to grip your mind so wholly that escape appears quite hopeless.

There is an instant in which terror seems to grip your mind so wholly that escape appears quite hopeless. When you realise, once and for a...

Prioritisation in our life is crucial. Our life tends to reflect how we prioritise things.

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Prioritisation in our life is crucial. Our life tends to reflect how we prioritise things. If our chief ‘God’ is money, or relationships, ...

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Prioritisation in our life is crucial. Our life tends to reflect how we prioritise things. If our chief ‘God’ is money, or relationships, or sex, or status, or power, or any host of more negative ideals, that will be mirrored in our life. We who desire to be awake to our highest potential that of a child hidden within, we must cultivate passion for that and put it as number one on the list. Our life needs to be oriented around the intention to be awake. That doesn’t mean we become obsessed with it. Our task is to live a balanced life, but one that has a central conscious aim, to ‘remember yourself, always and everywhere’. We especially in these current eBay and Walmart times, tend to be dabblers and samplers, trying out something before rushing off to try out the next thing. Perhaps no better metaphor for this sheer superficiality can be found in the modern online social networking phenomenon, where on such sites as Facebook individuals have lists of hundreds (or even thousands) of ‘friends’, the vast majority of whom they have no direct communication with (and probably do not even know), and who can scarcely be recognised as a friend in the actual meaning of the word. We live during of time of vast breadth but little depth. Everything is spread wide and very thin, owing largely to the advances in communication technology. Naturally there are some benefits from this, but there are serious drawbacks, one of which is a diminished effect on attention spans, restlessness and cynicism, and a knowledge-diet of ‘sound-bites’, snippets, YouTube mini-movies and endless related mundane downloads of trivia.

Prioritisation in our life is crucial. Our life tends to reflect how we prioritise things.

Prioritisation in our life is crucial. Our life tends to reflect how we prioritise things. If our chief ‘God’ is money, or relationships, ...

Today in a New Year and a new time in our lives.

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Today in a New Year and a new time in our lives. There is excitement in the air, for the gift we receive today is time, a new day, a new ...

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 Today in a New Year and a new time in our lives. There is excitement in the air, for the gift we receive today is time, a new day, a new year, another chance to recover and grow. Time is the medium of evolution allowing the unfolding of life’s purpose. The days of this New Year, used consciously, will awaken our purpose and lead to our awakening. Time used constructively heals the traumas that would crush our life’s expression. Time used mindfully carries us like a mighty river to our depth. Time used consciously transforms life experience into wisdom and illumination. No wonder we’re excited at the prospects of this New Year and its gift of time. It takes time to recover. We must proceed slowly, day by day, unraveling the damage that confounds the full expression of our identity. Our traumas run deep for they were inflicted practically from our first breath. The painstaking work of loving all the lost parts of ourselves back to life, vitality, and full expression must be done slowly, day by day, throughout this New Year. Today we begin the journey back to our child within and to truth. We take the hand of our enraged child within who was shamed into believing it was of little value and hold this child in our care and protection. We comfort this terrified child, buried within us, who hid for safe-keeping until this very moment. We open the dungeons gates with our love and breathe life into our forgotten existence. Today we begin a journey through our childhood. Slowly, through the days of this new time, we develop our child within into the fulfilled adult that life intended.

Today in a New Year and a new time in our lives.

Today in a New Year and a new time in our lives. There is excitement in the air, for the gift we receive today is time, a new day, a new ...

Bond over your power in your loving-kindfulness solutions, not your problems in your life.

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“Bond over your power in your loving-kindfulness solutions, not your problems in your life.” This statement TOTALLY floored me. Imagine ...

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“Bond over your power in your loving-kindfulness solutions, not your problems in your life.” This statement TOTALLY floored me. Imagine setting the intention to create primary relationships in our lives that support and encourage us to live in our power – CONSCIOUSLY. I think this has always been an unconscious desire of mine, but those words hold a lot of power. Many of us bond over our pain and get angry or jealous when the other person starts to step into their power. Have you done that? I know I have, many times. When you bond over your problems only, eventually it feels like you are walking on eggshells in your relationships. If you feel this way, then we can safely say you have not bonded over your power and thus not attracted a relationship that supports and encourages you to live in your power. The flip of this desire is that we must also celebrate, support and encourage our partner to live in his or her power. And THAT can be a scary thing. If they live in their power, we have less certainty around what would possibly happen. If we support someone else’s power they might get more attention than us, which can feel threatening. It takes a bold and confident couple to bond over each other’s power and encourage the fullness in the other person. So, my question for you today is this: are the relationships in your life relationships that support your power or discourage your power? Have you bonded over your wounds only, or have you bonded over each other being in your mutual power? Is your relationship set up so both of you can thrive? Or do the relationships in your life hold you back?

Bond over your power in your loving-kindfulness solutions, not your problems in your life.

“Bond over your power in your loving-kindfulness solutions, not your problems in your life.” This statement TOTALLY floored me. Imagine ...

Take up the child within.

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"Take up the child within. Make that one idea your life - think of it, dream of it, live on this idea. Let the brain, muscles, nerves...

Take up the child within.

"Take up the child within. Make that one idea your life - think of it, dream of it, live on this idea. Let the brain, muscles, nerves...

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Learning to let go of constructed mental positions, pride, excessive stubbornness, reactive blame of others

From the ultimate viewpoint there is no view whatsoever.

There is an instant in which terror seems to grip your mind so wholly that escape appears quite hopeless.

Prioritisation in our life is crucial. Our life tends to reflect how we prioritise things.

Today in a New Year and a new time in our lives.

Bond over your power in your loving-kindfulness solutions, not your problems in your life.

Take up the child within.

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