Ten Stages the motivation of the shadow parent.dynamic within ourselves in which we spend the rest of our lives seeking parents in others, both in friendships and especially in romantic relationships

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://1.bp.blogspot.com/-E6KvGKqJUpQ/VR6v9ox1eII/AAAAAAAAQ1Q/3jTz0E_QvJkOrNIrzfWbmzCyhQdtMkiCACPcB/s1600/gearHead23.jpg.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://1.bp.blogspot.com/-E6KvGKqJUpQ/VR6v9ox1eII/AAAAAAAAQ1Q/3jTz0E_QvJkOrNIrzfWbmzCyhQdtMkiCACPcB/s1600/gearHead23.jpg.jpg" /></a></div> <br /> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">We all desire to be loved, starting as children by our parents. So often our parents failed us, and sometimes failed us grossly. This sets up a dynamic within ourselves in which we spend the rest of our lives seeking parents in others, both in friendships and especially in romantic relationships. We project our split-off needs, desires, and unresolved sides of ourselves onto our friends and partners, even onto our children, in order to attempt to re- solve our childhood dilemmas. This is a set-up for failure, a guarantee for unhealthy relationships. Our recovery is to see people for who they are and not to project our unresolved issues onto them. Healthy relationships begin when we look to producing a relationship with our child within recovering the full truth about our own selves. </span>

Ten Stages the motivation of the shadow parent.dynamic within ourselves in which we spend the rest of our lives seeking parents in others, both in friendships and especially in romantic relationships

We all desire to be loved, starting as children by our parents. So often our parents failed us, and sometimes failed us grossly. This set...

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All our symptoms and all our behaviours were communications.

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> </div> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://2.bp.blogspot.com/-pxkgem68jCI/WIS4Xgvd4kI/AAAAAAAAZ5Y/6gFc9P8Pytgax_djxX7IEVNpiYtE2fDogCEw/s1600/bestchopblock.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="180" src="https://2.bp.blogspot.com/-pxkgem68jCI/WIS4Xgvd4kI/AAAAAAAAZ5Y/6gFc9P8Pytgax_djxX7IEVNpiYtE2fDogCEw/s320/bestchopblock.jpg" width="320" /></a></div> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">All our symptoms and all our behaviours were communications. They are us trying to tell our true story, trying to speak when we had been forbidden ever to tell. They were our dissociative unconscious desperately forcing itself into consciousness. They weren't a sign of our addictive madness – they were a sign of our sanity, because our minds wanted to recover.</span>

All our symptoms and all our behaviours were communications.

All our symptoms and all our behaviours were communications. They are us trying to tell our true story, trying to speak when we had been...

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The Ten Stages is turning the world of Addiction Treatment upside down.

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://4.bp.blogspot.com/-qUsKg-hHcHM/WBHFGRxuhlI/AAAAAAAAZSA/D1FyjPSDEuYRagqNSQx4L7yyKcVPg4XGgCLcB/s1600/child%2Bwithin%2Bspain.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="266" src="https://4.bp.blogspot.com/-qUsKg-hHcHM/WBHFGRxuhlI/AAAAAAAAZSA/D1FyjPSDEuYRagqNSQx4L7yyKcVPg4XGgCLcB/s320/child%2Bwithin%2Bspain.jpg" width="320" /></a></div> <span style="font-family: Courier New, Courier, monospace; font-size: large;">The Ten Stages is turning the world of Addiction Treatment upside down. This taught course is the first treatment modality that comes from a healthy background. Thats right no blame and shame and is growing at an amazing rate 200,000 people participating.Child Within introduces us to a no blame or shame close up of the roots of Addiction. With a world wide audience and the backing of local governments recovery becomes a real opportunity for everyone, no discrimination, no religion acceptance of all substances and behaviours.Shortly coming to the Costa del Sol for a two week taster</span>

The Ten Stages is turning the world of Addiction Treatment upside down.

The Ten Stages is turning the world of Addiction Treatment upside down. This taught course is the first treatment modality that comes from...

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Forgiveness is not a tool in the ten stage process, but a consequence of it.

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://1.bp.blogspot.com/-YspD16pBIs4/VaOs0tIhKTI/AAAAAAAATAs/v7UmNeY-xHgVGmbmJWkI0ROt1yDYQh_bQCPcB/s1600/110888-108744.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://1.bp.blogspot.com/-YspD16pBIs4/VaOs0tIhKTI/AAAAAAAATAs/v7UmNeY-xHgVGmbmJWkI0ROt1yDYQh_bQCPcB/s1600/110888-108744.jpg" /></a></div> <br /> <span style="font-family: Courier New, Courier, monospace; font-size: large;">Forgiveness is not a tool in the ten stage process, but a consequence of it. If we attempt to forgive before we have exhumed and felt and grieved and healed the damages done to us we only engage in the delusion of a temporary, premature forgiveness that can so easily be undone when unresolved dissociations erupt once again, which they invariably do. When we grieve we reconnect with the best of ourselves and with our pure child within—and spontaneously understand and  forgive. And then our forgiveness is true, deep, pure, and permanent. </span>

Forgiveness is not a tool in the ten stage process, but a consequence of it.

Forgiveness is not a tool in the ten stage process, but a consequence of it. If we attempt to forgive before we have exhumed and felt and...

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Our imperfections come from our childhood history of learned coping strategies.

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://1.bp.blogspot.com/-H86WVRk30yg/WA3tZo5KVBI/AAAAAAAAZRY/1k3Kk9NnrpA_xeyX-QD6NE46XNQrXtuwACLcB/s1600/child%2Bwithin%2Bspain.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="266" src="https://1.bp.blogspot.com/-H86WVRk30yg/WA3tZo5KVBI/AAAAAAAAZRY/1k3Kk9NnrpA_xeyX-QD6NE46XNQrXtuwACLcB/s320/child%2Bwithin%2Bspain.jpg" width="320" /></a></div> <br /> <span style="font-family: Courier New, Courier, monospace; font-size: large;">The ways we were hurt by others, though often we disguise this by hurting others through coded means. No one causes destruction because he is inherently dissociated. No child is born evil, and no one was created imperfect. Our imperfections come from our childhood history of learned coping strategies. And when we heal that history we discontinue the dissociated cycle. Hurt people hurt people—and healed people heal people. </span>

Our imperfections come from our childhood history of learned coping strategies.

The ways we were hurt by others, though often we disguise this by hurting others through coded means. No one causes destruction because h...

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We are looking for students to become Founders of The Ten Stages in Marbella

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://4.bp.blogspot.com/-FXT0gOnDdB0/WASZXYEzmXI/AAAAAAAAZPM/KcpI2JIPB6I6BolgiRf7bouqLRrDLHj2gCLcB/s1600/child%2Bwithin%2Bspain.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="266" src="https://4.bp.blogspot.com/-FXT0gOnDdB0/WASZXYEzmXI/AAAAAAAAZPM/KcpI2JIPB6I6BolgiRf7bouqLRrDLHj2gCLcB/s320/child%2Bwithin%2Bspain.jpg" width="320" /></a></div> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">Starting from 26th of November Dream Warrior is pleased to announce that a number of tasters for its worldwide program over 150,000 participating will take part in and around Marbella.We are looking for Founders of The Ten Stages in Marbella<br /><br /><br /><br />The Ten Stages are based on the fact that we each have the capacity to be our own guide on life’s recovery journey. Experience should have taught us that all the answers to our life are within. Ultimately it is up to us to heal ourselves. The struggle and the responsibility are ours, and ours alone. <br /><br />The Ten Stages, a program of self-understanding, rests on our experience that unresolved dissociations from childhood block our connection with our true self, the child within.1<br /><br /> Where we remain dissociated we act out unconsciously and destructively in any number of ways—according to the templates of our childhood past. We understand by resolving our dissociations. This healing connects us to the river of truth that runs through all things, frees our deeper gifts, and opens us up to our life’s purpose. These ten stages are a universal pathway to understanding our ancient inherited dysfunctions. They lead us out of the darkness of our unconscious lives and into the enlightenment of our full conscious connection with our child with-ins truth. They are the backbone of our healing process, but like a backbone they are flexible. <br /><br />They are evolving suggestions, not the law, and they strive only to guide us within. Ultimately we need not trust anyone else’s words, platform, or methods; our own inner template provides the best map of all. Our dissociated life tangled us up, and at times our growth process reflects these tangles. Some facets of our personality can be enlightened while other parts remain buried and dissociated. Grieving, a process necessary for restoring the child within often has a life of its own. For these reasons, we can work one stage at a time, or we can work several at once. We can repeat several early stages before moving on to another one, or we can repeat several stages before returning to an earlier one. <br /><br />If recovery were simple and linear everyone would be long since recovered. This workshop is intended to help us make sense of the recovery process1, to understand its dynamics, and to apply this to our lives. Our goal is recovering our autonomous life.The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. #childwithin#10stages</span><br /> <div class="post-body entry-content" id="post-body-1539492122070283297" itemprop="description articleBody" style="line-height: 1.6em; margin: 0px 0px 0.75em; width: 672.109px;"> <div style="clear: both;"> </div> </div> <span class="datex show" style="background-color: #be4200; color: white; display: block; left: 15px; padding: 3px 0px; position: absolute; text-align: center; top: 0px; transition: all 0.4s ease-in-out; z-index: 0;"><strong style="display: block; font-size: 21px; padding: 0px 2px;">07</strong><span style="display: block; font-size: 9px; height: 12px; line-height: 12px; padding: 0px 2px;">Oct</span><small style="display: block; font-size: 9px; height: 12px; line-height: 12px; padding: 0px 2px;">2016</small></span><br /> <div class="post-footer" style="background-color: #fafafa; border-top: 1px solid rgb(190, 67, 0); line-height: 1.6; margin: 0px -10px -10px; padding: 8px;"> <div class="post-footer-line post-footer-line-1"> <div class="post-author vcard" style="color: #333333; font-family: "Courier New", Courier, FreeMono, monospace; font-size: 12px; margin: 0px;"> </div> <div class="post-comment-link" style="color: #333333; font-family: "Courier New", Courier, FreeMono, monospace; font-size: 12px; margin: 0px;"> </div> </div> </div>

We are looking for students to become Founders of The Ten Stages in Marbella

Starting from 26th of November Dream Warrior is pleased to announce that a number of tasters for its worldwide program over 150,000 partic...

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We again find our intuitive voice our intuitive truth and discover that when we are honest we do not die

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> </div> <br /> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://2.bp.blogspot.com/-Q_Mpv26VSc4/VRKEQ8Z692I/AAAAAAAAQrI/PkNO1Aiy8xEhproDcBfF1JZ6nC5GsU-SgCPcB/s1600/stage%2Bbarbed%2Bwire.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="320" src="https://2.bp.blogspot.com/-Q_Mpv26VSc4/VRKEQ8Z692I/AAAAAAAAQrI/PkNO1Aiy8xEhproDcBfF1JZ6nC5GsU-SgCPcB/s320/stage%2Bbarbed%2Bwire.jpg" width="213" /></a></div> <div> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">As children we used our intuitive voice our basic birthright of truth but our godlike parents contradicted us. They claimed to love us but often behaved differently.</span><br /> <div> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;"><br /></span></div> <div> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;"> Our confusion as children is understandable: in needing to believe in the goodness of our parents we, in our dependency, had no choice but to doubt ourselves. </span><br /> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;"><br /></span> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">They lied to us—and where they did we became corrupted. We became like they were. But now we are adults. We no longer live under their tyranny, however mild or extreme it was, or under the strangling social systems that support them. </span><br /> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;"><br /></span> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">We have options. This is the privilege of adulthood, and the privilege of the insight that comes with it. We again find our intuitive voice our intuitive truth and discover that when we are honest we do not die, but instead feel affirmed. </span><br /> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;"><br /></span> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">This leads us to believe that the truth at our core our child within is more powerful than the lies imposed upon us by our upbringing. We sense that with patience and perseverance we can bring the light of truth into all the dark and unconscious recesses of our psyche and into all the paralysed sides of our personality. We sense that we can become fully conscious—which by definition is recovery.</span></div> </div>

We again find our intuitive voice our intuitive truth and discover that when we are honest we do not die

As children we used our intuitive voice our basic birthright of truth but our godlike parents contradicted us. They claimed to love us...

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The Ten Stage experience is that people who cannot look at their own traumatic history have a difficult time

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://1.bp.blogspot.com/-fXHJwr2Rj2I/RwyNps8-2-I/AAAAAAAAXD8/nbImkY9UDbcVgIGrmKWMiH31FHovlj7ZACPcB/s1600/DSC_0399.JPG" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="320" src="https://1.bp.blogspot.com/-fXHJwr2Rj2I/RwyNps8-2-I/AAAAAAAAXD8/nbImkY9UDbcVgIGrmKWMiH31FHovlj7ZACPcB/s320/DSC_0399.JPG" width="212" /></a></div> <span style="font-family: Courier New, Courier, monospace; font-size: large;">The Ten Stage experience is that people who cannot look at their own traumatic history have a difficult time admitting to themselves who they really are—and connecting with what motivates them. </span><div> <span style="font-family: Courier New, Courier, monospace; font-size: large;"><br /></span></div> <div> <span style="font-family: Courier New, Courier, monospace; font-size: large;">This honest admission and connection is vital for engaging with the ten stages. We encourage you to take this process slowly. In fact, we know no other way. Many religious and spiritual traditions suggest that recovery can happen quickly, in a bolt of awakening light. That has not been our experience, despite the inevitable revelatory lightning bolts of insight that do come along the way—after much hard work. Although we see recovery as a goal, we keep in mind that it is an unfolding goal—and a process.  </span></div> <div> <span style="font-family: Courier New, Courier, monospace; font-size: large;"><br /></span></div> <div> <span style="font-family: Courier New, Courier, monospace; font-size: large;">If you are in a rush, as many of us are when we begin the ten stages,   If you take these stages seriously, and take seriously the tools associated with them,  a lot of internal processing.  We encourage you to be gentle with yourself as you undertake the ten stages that this site provides. We encourage you to practice self-kindness, self-love, and patience. Doing this process will be painful. That is inevitable. But it does not have to be torture. The dissociations of childhood were torture; repeating that in adulthood is not healing. We wish you strength and courage—and also ingenuity and self-respect. These are vital for recovery, and we believe to our cores that every person has them. It is just a question of tapping in.</span></div>

The Ten Stage experience is that people who cannot look at their own traumatic history have a difficult time

The Ten Stage experience is that people who cannot look at their own traumatic history have a difficult time admitting to themselves who t...

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The Ten Stages often gives us our first experience of truth and we experience the magic of true communion

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> </div> <br /> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://1.bp.blogspot.com/-ySD7mzm_3kw/WNyjD0V4uvI/AAAAAAAAb2E/8lX6brtTKLUaBSKKVLBj1tP8wm5CrI6SgCLcB/s1600/553237168-Zen-Child-Quote.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="320" src="https://1.bp.blogspot.com/-ySD7mzm_3kw/WNyjD0V4uvI/AAAAAAAAb2E/8lX6brtTKLUaBSKKVLBj1tP8wm5CrI6SgCLcB/s320/553237168-Zen-Child-Quote.jpg" width="221" /></a></div> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">The Ten Stages often gives us our first experience of truth and we experience the magic of true communion it then demands our allegiance. For too long we have betrayed ourselves in order to please others and their surrogates in society.  Family and social pressure to conform to dissociational thinking we now make a decision to be true to ourselves, the child within. This does not win us allies, but it aligns us with the best of our hidden child within. Our parents and siblings have sacrificed much of their freedom and threatened their life force to submit to ancestral denial, and they expect the same from us. When we do not comply, they threaten us with expulsion, abandonment, and the withholding of love and truth. Yet we start to resist these threats. </span><br /> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;"><br /></span> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">No matter what voices haunt our shadow self, or literally  the family dialogue with chatter of retribution, we listen instead to our deep, quiet, and authentic voice of inner truth, our child hidden within. We make a decision to align, moment by moment, day by day, with the truth at our core our child within, and we begin to accumulate significant time and practice to our freed intuitive voice.We begin to actually listen to ourselves</span>

The Ten Stages often gives us our first experience of truth and we experience the magic of true communion

The Ten Stages often gives us our first experience of truth and we experience the magic of true communion it then demands our allegianc...

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As an original perfect child within we intuited our basic birthright of truth

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://4.bp.blogspot.com/-H47fxrQVjao/Vb8zDgFtisI/AAAAAAAATO4/D_UcEHQYImk55y4GepGej-jjxUiZVDwHQCPcB/s1600/within%2Bchild.jpeg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://4.bp.blogspot.com/-H47fxrQVjao/Vb8zDgFtisI/AAAAAAAATO4/D_UcEHQYImk55y4GepGej-jjxUiZVDwHQCPcB/s1600/within%2Bchild.jpeg" /></a></div> <br /> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">As an original perfect child within we intuited our basic birthright of truth but our familial dissociations contradicted us. These inherited dissociations claimed to love us but often behaved differently. Our confusion as a child is understandable: in needing to believe in the goodness of our parents we, in our dependency, had no choice but to doubt ourselves. They lied to us and where they did we became dissociated. We became like they were. But now we are adults. We no longer live under their dissociated life, however mild or extreme it was, or under the strangling social systems that support them. We have options. This is the privilege of recognising the child within, and the privilege of the insight that comes with it. </span><br /> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;"><br /></span> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">We again intuit truth and discover that when we are honest we do not die, but instead feel affirmed by our intuitive voice. This leads us to believe that the truth at our core in the perfect child within is more powerful than the lies imposed upon us by our upbringing. </span><br /> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;"><br /></span> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">We sense that with patience and perseverance we can bring the light of truth into all the dark and unconscious recesses of our shadow self and into all the dissociated sides of our personality. We sense that we can become fully conscious inside our child within.</span>

As an original perfect child within we intuited our basic birthright of truth

As an original perfect child within we intuited our basic birthright of truth but our familial dissociations contradicted us. These inher...

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