THE RECOVERING SOCIETY
A revelation for me recently has been that nobody and nothing, including myself, is perfect. It sounds obvious when I write it, but for many years I would meet people, religions, programs and project this expectation of perfection on to them. And I would get mad, angry and hurt when they wouldn't meet that expectation. So, I've recently decided that from the beginning of any relationship I start with anything, that I want to acknowledge my own imperfection as well as the imperfection of the other person or thing and consciously choose to enter into a relationship not seeking the curse of perfection, but rather understanding other's imperfections.
And instead of looking to the other person or program to meet all our needs perfectly which is control, to take our eyes off of our imperfect selves and put them on our higher power. I believe that the only perfect understanding is the understanding of a higher power. We are constantly nurtured by it with community and with free will. We are fully supported in this life by our higher power. It is the thoughts of lack, of fear and of neediness that make us feel as if we are not.
When we remember this, we can remember our true essence and start to be at peace. When we realise that the only perfect form of understanding is the kindness of a relationship with a power greater than ourselves, we can no longer have the insane expectations that other people are perfect and expect perfect love from them. We then step into the reality of imperfection that is the human condition. This is a humble place and it is from this humble place that we acknowledge that we need to grow, to work on ourselves and to walk the Path of Recovery. To be in relationship with someone who isn't on this path makes understanding for us very difficult. So, are you willing to step out into self-worth? Are you willing to set a higher understanding of the human condition to let people into our life who have the same commitment?
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