People arriving in the fellowships are focused on the cause of their problem, aka – the pathology.

 People arriving in the fellowships are focused on the cause of their problem, aka – the pathology.

And while it’s all well and good to know where your problem came from and arguably very important, if you only stay focused on that (the pathology), you will not thrive.Staying in defineing yourself by your pathology locks yourself into this behaviour.

To thrive in any way – medically, mentally, physically, emotionally or spiritually – you have to have an ideal outcome or scenario or destination that you are headed toward THE STEPS.

This isn’t to say that you should be SO fixed on an outcome that you are inflexible and rigid – on the contrary! I am a BIG believer in flow. But, if all you do is spend time focusing on what the problem is, you leave no room open for the solution.

This isn’t as easy as “being positive”. I would not be so naïve as to say that a positive attitude is enough to make you feel better or heal – especially from extreme illness. However, what I am saying is that without a positive and optimistic outlook, the possibility of healing and THRIVING is almost 0%.

When we focus only on the problem, we get MORE of the problem. And it becomes not only the story of your life, but also your IDENTITY. And when you identify (as in who you are is now the problem), the likelihood of recovery reduces significantly.

If we wish to recover, if we wish to live an extraordinary life, if we wish for miracles to happen to us and if we wish to be able to SEE solutions, we must go looking for them in the steps. This means that we become aware of the pathology, understand the pathology and then set our minds on an outcome of recovery, rather than living in the pain of the problem.

This is not a prescription for a spiritual bypass of your pain. You must feel your pain fully in order for it to heal. You cannot will your pain away or just wish for life to get better.Hence Step 4,5

However, the body responds to what your mind feeds it.The Solution

Healing is a medical process, an emotional process, a physical process AND a spiritual process. So, to have fixed in your mind a thriving outcome of ideal health and abundance is the cornerstone of creating recovery in your life.

Anyone who has come back from massive failure of addiction or had a medical recovery miracle in his or her life operated this way.

Can you? 

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