It’s easy to play the victim

It’s easy to play the victim, and a lot of people out there will try to convince you that it’s easier to blame other people for the circumstances of your life. One of the reasons it’s easy to be a victim is because you give away the responseability of the outcome and circumstances of your life to some other person or entity.

As a victim, we tell ourselves that it’s not our fault; it’s the government’s fault, or our significant other's fault, or our friend’s fault or our parents’ fault. If you really get creative you can imagine a whole range of people to blame for your life.

But the truth is that you are the one making the choices in your life. YOU have the free will and ability to CHOOSE to connect to Recovery or not.

If you’re like me, you’ve probably made a mistake or two in your life. For a long time it was easy to blame people for the outcome. When things didn’t go the way I WANTED them to I would just make it someone else’s fault.

 CHOICE is the most important power in Recovery. Solution Based Recovery teaches that it is the power of our INTENTION to participate in the solution that forms the outcome of our life. SBR will tell you that life is hard and that when you realize and accept that, life is no longer hard. The program will tell you to put the loving first and to keep your dreams and visions grounded and in real time now.

And SBR would remind us to love ourselves big time and to keep our thoughts in alignment with what we want, rather than what we don’t want. And of course, the master teaches unconditional Love and says we can experience this Love when we have right thought, take right action and keep our focus off of ourselves and keep it instead on Love. 

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