Choose members who are open to love. That's right, I said it. Choose members in the fellowship who are open to love.
Sounds obvious, doesn't it? Well I'll be the first to admit that I have altered, changed, obsessed and thought about how to act around people I like so they won't reject me. Another way of looking at this is: I stopped being ME to please someone else.
The answer is simple, but not easy: be radically yourself.
Don't abandon yourself to please another. Open up, become a member (yes, I am projecting), be a little crazy, be sweet, kind, generous and all those things you wish to have in someone else.
You see, many times we hold back these previous things because we think we will turn off or offend the other person... But the truth is, we should be open and ourselves and celebrate when people reject us. We learn to be vulnerable and that is where our healing starts and finishes.
We want someone who is open, willing and excited to receive what we have to share. Just like they want someone who is excited, open and willing to receive what they have to share.
The bottom line: don't close down, shut off or tone yourself down because you think the other members will reject you. If they aren't attracted to who you really are, then good, time saved and you can move on. Lingering in a false identity to get the approval of someone else is the ultimate betrayal of your personal integrity. We do it because we love approval from other people. The only problem is that we are building our program on a bed of sand. It will tumble eventually and the truth will be exposed.
So today and every day forward, let's have no fear to be ourselves. Let's make a pact to be radically ourselves and let the chips fall where they may. The right person will stick to the program, but only if you have the courage, clarity and self-love to let go of the wrong one.
Be you a member of this fellowship out loud today. I dare you.
Sounds obvious, doesn't it? Well I'll be the first to admit that I have altered, changed, obsessed and thought about how to act around people I like so they won't reject me. Another way of looking at this is: I stopped being ME to please someone else.
The answer is simple, but not easy: be radically yourself.
Don't abandon yourself to please another. Open up, become a member (yes, I am projecting), be a little crazy, be sweet, kind, generous and all those things you wish to have in someone else.
You see, many times we hold back these previous things because we think we will turn off or offend the other person... But the truth is, we should be open and ourselves and celebrate when people reject us. We learn to be vulnerable and that is where our healing starts and finishes.
We want someone who is open, willing and excited to receive what we have to share. Just like they want someone who is excited, open and willing to receive what they have to share.
The bottom line: don't close down, shut off or tone yourself down because you think the other members will reject you. If they aren't attracted to who you really are, then good, time saved and you can move on. Lingering in a false identity to get the approval of someone else is the ultimate betrayal of your personal integrity. We do it because we love approval from other people. The only problem is that we are building our program on a bed of sand. It will tumble eventually and the truth will be exposed.
So today and every day forward, let's have no fear to be ourselves. Let's make a pact to be radically ourselves and let the chips fall where they may. The right person will stick to the program, but only if you have the courage, clarity and self-love to let go of the wrong one.
Be you a member of this fellowship out loud today. I dare you.
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