Being Loving can mean setting boundaries, saying no, being firm and also not making everyone happy.

I think if I am vulnerable, I am weak. If I could get these ideas out of my head and act accordingly, peace and serenity can happen.






Being Loving can mean setting boundaries, saying no, being firm and also not making everyone happy.






Being vulnerable can yield results if we could but try.






Somehow we think that being Loving is the same thing as codependent – always agreeing with what other people want over your needs to the point of hurting yourself and abandoning yourself.






This is not the case.






You can stand firm in your Love. Your Love of The Divine. Your Love of self. Your Love for an ideal. Your Love for others.






Many times as a recovery practioner I have to make hard choices and stand firm. When I do this, sometimes I get accused of not “walking my talk.”






And while we always do our best at SBR to lead with an open heart, disagreements happen, boundaries must be set and everyone can’t be happy all the time.






I don’t believe that everyone should like you. If you are going to shine, if you are going to give of your heart and be true to yourself, you are going to piss some people off – it’s just how it goes.






It might not be intentionally, it might not be to hurt them – but frictions in human relationships happen and to expect there to be no friction is not realistic.






The question is, can we lead with Love during friction while not backing down?






Can we open our hearts and still allow room for a fierce sense of self-love and protection so that thin boundaries don’t turn into being drowned by abandoning our own needs?






Kindness is a virtue that is evidence of Love – and so is courage. When we Love, we must Love in spite of the fear of what others will do.






We cannot control other people's opinions of us, or their actions.






All we can control is our own choices and the meanings we make about life. As long as our choices and our actions are in alignment with our truth and Love – we must let the pieces fall as they may.






Don’t be so concerned with your reputation or letting others down. Be more concerned with letting yourself down and ultimately not honoring the gift of intuition that is guiding your next steps.






Can you have the courage today to be firm and Loving?

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