I must start with acceptance, acceptance of both the light and darkness: my bad habits, my kindness and irrationality, my impatience, my defensiveness

I have known for some time that before I can change anything about myself, I must start with acceptance, acceptance of both the light and darkness: my bad habits, my kindness and irrationality, my impatience, my defensiveness, etc.  I must just say to myself, so here am I warts, faults, failures, past mistakes and all and that’s alright.  It can’t be other than alright because I can’t go back and do it all over again.  Blaming myself just blocks any healing available.  So, I believe that if you want to move on, you start with acceptance of who and where you are.  It just may be true that you must accept yourself before you can accept others.  If you don’t then you may project your dark side onto them which makes it impossible for you to work on the projected issue because you won’t own up it anymore.

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