Our sense of self, our self perception, was shattered and fractured and broken into pieces, not our True Self.
We think and feel like we are broken because we were programmed backwards.
We are not broken. That is what toxic shame is - thinking that we are broken, believing that we are somehow inherently defective.
Guilt is "I made a mistake, I did something wrong."
Shame is "I'm a mistake, something is wrong with me."
Again, the feelings of that little child inside who believes that he/she deserves to be punished.
We think and feel like we are broken because we were programmed backwards.
We are not broken. That is what toxic shame is - thinking that we are broken, believing that we are somehow inherently defective.
Guilt is "I made a mistake, I did something wrong."
Shame is "I'm a mistake, something is wrong with me."
Again, the feelings of that little child inside who believes that he/she deserves to be punished.
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you might want to link to this piece http://www.afterpsychotherapy.com/basic-shame/
It took me a while to find a good explanation for toxic shame :) I needed to understand it more.
Awareness is vital and reaching people like me who weren't previously introduced to this, well, let's just say it opened up my eyes. Thank you
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