Steps to Better Understanding Your Feelings

Step One: Awareness - acknowledging that we have feelings, that all feelings are acceptable, and that we can have a feeling, any feeling, without becoming a “bad person” as a result of the feeling.
Step Two: Knowing - becoming aware of the feelings our body experiences.
Step Three: Identifying - being able to find a word for a feeling, to give our feeling a name.
Step Four: Accepting - acknowledging that our feeling is legitimate or justifiable. Also, whether or not our feeling is something we can do something about, or is it a feeling that we need to simply experience and move on from without further action.
Step Five: Reflecting - the act of taking the time to ask ourselves questions including: What caused our feeling? How can the feeling be expressed or experienced? What can we do with or about the feeling?
Step Six: Forecasting - This is like the master’s class of feelings. Forecasting is about predicting how we will feel in the future. For example, if I do this, I will feel this way about having done it.
Forecasting is also the ability to predict how someone else will feel as a result of something and gives us the insight to be able to compare actions. (For example, if I do this, then this will be the result; if I do that, then the result will be that.)

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