It is a design for living that works in rough going.Its a dissociation and a co-dependent one at that.That in the long run fails to work.

 We are often told that they have nothing to give if they are not doing well in our own recovery. After all, how could someone who is plagued by waves of self-pity and resentment share a message of hope, sanity, and recovery? Sometimes a sponsor in another program will be told to let go of the people they are working with if that sponsor is no longer doing well. However, the program in the ten stages  gives us a different perspective.  "I was not too well at the time, and was plagued by waves of self-pity and resentment. This sometimes nearly drove me back to drink, but I soon found that when all other measures failed, work with another alcoholic would save the day. Many times I have gone to my old hospital in despair. On talking to a man there, I would be amazingly lifted up and set on my feet. It is a design for living that works in rough going.Its a dissociation and a co-dependent one at that.That in the long run fails to work.