Our society has it backwards. We’ve been taught that our happiness depends on how we perceive life outside of ourselves

This is insanity because in reality we have no control over anything that isn’t us. This attitude to life has always kept us in pain. The truth of the matter is - we can choose to be happy and self-fulfilled regardless of what is happening on the outside. Then we can stop being clingy and needy and creating self-sabotage. We can finally make healthy decisions that honour us and attract and maintain real love, safety and happiness.

If you know you have co-dependency issues you need to make your recovery a mission. This requires healing your fears of feeling out of control. This means being willing to be responsible for your own emotions without focusing on anyone or anything outside of you to escape yourself. This is the only way you can be free. No-one else is going to provide you with the guarantee of happiness and safety. This job is yours alone, and until you step up to the plate other people, situations and life will inevitably hurt you.

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