Anonymity You're not so much trying to establish your individuality as to let go of your sense of uniqueness

"You're not so much trying to establish your individuality as to let go of your sense of uniqueness," "When we stop trying to stand out in this way, we are working from the premise that, as the 12-Step literature says, "Selfishness -- self-centeredness! That we think is the root of our troubles.""

"Dropping our last name and our sense of uniqueness," he notes, "is a way to counter this tendency of trying to be the most special person; of trying to control everything and everyone around us; of putting satisfaction of our own desires before the needs of those around us."