why didn't he go to AA

 you know the Irish joke of two women at the cemetery:   Onesays to the other "So, he finally died of the drink....  why didn't he go to AA?"  ..  the wife answers:  "Oh!   He was never THAT bad!"

why didn't he go to AA

 you know the Irish joke of two women at the cemetery:   Onesays to the other "So, he finally died of the drink....  why didn't he ...

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Tea Therapy Wabi-Sabi

<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"> <span class="Apple-style-span" style="border-collapse: collapse; color: #373737; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"></span><br /> <div style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; line-height: 17px;"> The old adage, keep a stiff upper lip has a confusing connotation. On the one hand society is bombarded with messages about the importance of finding balance in life with the body, mind, and spirit. On the other hand, the remnants of the British rule requiring detachment from emotion, hence a stiff upper lip, results in many people stuffing their emotions. So what do people do in troubling times to remain focused on the positive?</div> <div style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; line-height: 17px;"> In this modern age, the immediate response for many people is to suggest counseling. The assumption is, of course, that people don’t inherently have the knowledge to help themselves. Counseling may be great for those who can afford to pay for therapy but what about those who don’t have the money? What did people do years ago before counseling and therapy services? In most cases, they had tea.</div> Tea Therapy<br /><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Medicine in Stories</span><br /><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; line-height: 17px;">Clarissa Pinkola Estes, author of “Women Who Run With Wolves”, points out that stories are like medicine. They contain instructions for living. Author Thomas Moore might agree. He explains that the art of sharing language is being lost to the technological abbreviations which often mask and obscure the essence of soulful connection. The stories and songs of any given culture is what keeps the spirit alive with meaning and depth.</span><br /><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">A Good Combination</span><br /> <div style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; line-height: 17px;"> Throughout many cultures, the natural approach to a stressful situation is to offer a cup of tea and to sit with the person. Tea with a good heart to heart chat has been and continues to be the best therapy for many people. The elaborate Japanese Tea ceremonies, the Zen Buddhist practice of serving tea and even the English Afternoon tea serve as a testament to the soul nourishing aspect of tea.<span class="Apple-style-span" style="border-collapse: separate; color: black;">University College of London in their study on the effects of black tea on stress found that regular drinkers of black tea were more easily able to recover from stress because of a lower level of stress hormones in their system. Health publications and alternative health practitioners are providing a wealth of support for similar trends in utilizing the therapeutic benefits of drinking tea coupled with uplifting social banter.</span></div> <span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"></span><br /> <div style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; line-height: 17px;"> <span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Serving up a good cup of tea and sharing social time with a friend can be a very effective therapy, both physically and emotionally. For some it is a time to share the story. For others, it is a time to forget the story and get on with it. No need for the stiff upper lip when an aptly timed cup of tea and listening ear does the trick. The old folk were demonstrating this form of therapy long before there was an official study required.</span></div> <div style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; line-height: 17px;"> <span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">People laugh at the traditions of old folk who by ritual offer tea and tell their stories. They have an innate wisdom that a good cup of tea and creating the time and space for sharing this ritual actually heals the soul. So in actual fact, these old folk have it right. It’s a loss for people today who don’t take the time or see the value in this form of free therapy.</span></div> <div style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; line-height: 17px;"> <span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">So the sharing of stories paired up with the rituals of sharing tea makes for a very beneficial form of social counseling. Regardless of how grim ones situation may appear, there’s nothing that can compare to the soothing and comfort of this age old tradition of sipping tea while pouring out of the soul. 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Tea Therapy Wabi-Sabi

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Live: Group Sex Therapy

<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 12px; line-height: 16px;">Approximately 80 University students found out Saturday night what it is like to have a vagina.</span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 12px; line-height: 16px;"><br /> </span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 12px; line-height: 16px;"><br /> </span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 12px; line-height: 16px;">Speaker Daniel Packard answered this question in his show "Live: Group Sex Therapy," where he spoke to students about relationships, sex and what it's like to be a member of the opposite sex.</span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 12px; line-height: 16px;"><br /> </span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 12px; line-height: 16px;"><br /> </span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 12px; line-height: 16px;">Packard used humor to discuss in-depth sexual topics with an interactive audience. Though he spoke about men's relationship problems, he focused on the women and their roles in the relationship because they "control the show."</span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 12px; line-height: 16px;"><br /> </span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 12px; line-height: 16px;"><br /> </span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 12px; line-height: 16px;">"Guys like reality, girls like fantasy," Packard said. "Most of you get your ideals from Disney movies."</span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 12px; line-height: 16px;"><br /> </span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 12px; line-height: 16px;"><br /> </span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 12px; line-height: 16px;">Packard said that instead of waiting for love, like the Disney princesses, students should gain the confidence to go out and find it. He also said students put their sense of self in other people's hands.</span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 12px; line-height: 16px;"><br /> </span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 12px; line-height: 16px;"><br /> </span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 12px; line-height: 16px;">"Nobody can ever tell you who you are," Packard said.</span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 12px; line-height: 16px;"><br /> </span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 12px; line-height: 16px;"><br /> </span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 12px; line-height: 16px;">In a relationship, Packard said students should have compassion for others instead of placing blame on them.</span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 12px; line-height: 16px;"><br /> </span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 12px; line-height: 16px;"><br /> </span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 12px; line-height: 16px;">"When you control and you blame, you can't get that whoosh feeling. When you blame someone, you never get the full story," Packard said. "Love is earned."</span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 12px; line-height: 16px;"><br /> </span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 12px; line-height: 16px;"><br /> </span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 12px; line-height: 16px;">Packard's presentation included audience participation with multimedia options. Students could text message a question or answer to polls on Packard's computer. The results would then show up on the screen for the audience to see.</span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 12px; line-height: 16px;"><br /> </span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 12px; line-height: 16px;"><br /> </span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 12px; line-height: 16px;">Students like freshmen Brian Young and Kendall Delong said they felt more comfortable to send a text message without their names being attached.</span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 12px; line-height: 16px;"><br /> </span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 12px; line-height: 16px;"><br /> </span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 12px; line-height: 16px;">"It's stuff nobody else thinks to say, something you don't want to bring up," Young said.</span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 12px; line-height: 16px;"><br /> </span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 12px; line-height: 16px;"><br /> </span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 12px; line-height: 16px;">Delong said that she felt like Packard connected with students well enough for them to be open about awkward sexual topics.</span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 12px; line-height: 16px;"><br /> </span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 12px; line-height: 16px;"><br /> </span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 12px; line-height: 16px;">"I really felt like I could be comfortable and that other people are going through the same type of thing," Delong said.</span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 12px; line-height: 16px;"><br /> </span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 12px; line-height: 16px;"><br /> </span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 12px; line-height: 16px;">Packard's show was in conjunction with the first year fall welcome program, sponsored by the Orientation and First Year Programs and the Drug, Alcohol and Sexual Offenses Coalition.</span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 12px; line-height: 16px;"><br /> </span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 12px; line-height: 16px;"><br /> </span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 12px; line-height: 16px;">First year graduate assistant Samuel Killermann helped plan this event. He said that Packard's show was recommended because he was the Canadian Organization of Campus Activities' national speaker of the year.</span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 12px; line-height: 16px;"><br /> </span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 12px; line-height: 16px;"><br /> </span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 12px; line-height: 16px;">"It wasn't what I was expecting," Killermann said. "[I was expecting] a much more trimmed down, a much more polished version of what we saw. He had a lot of good points but I think they were hidden in his message. I hope the students enjoyed it and it was a worthwhile program."</span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 12px; line-height: 16px;"><br /> </span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 12px; line-height: 16px;"><br /> </span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 12px; line-height: 16px;">Though Packard talks about sex and love to all ages, he said college-aged students should receive the message now.</span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 12px; line-height: 16px;"><br /> </span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 12px; line-height: 16px;"><br /> </span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 12px; line-height: 16px;">"I think it's a great age where you're learning about relationships and you're open to something but you're not so beat down," Packard said. "They're still forming their beliefs about love. Once people come up with their theories they don't change because they want to be right. Being right keeps them from growing."</span>

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He who has achieved success has worked well, laughed often and loved much."

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He who has achieved success has worked well, laughed often and loved much."

He who has achieved success has worked well, laughed often and loved much." -- Elbert Hubbard love & light

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A Pole Dance Addict's 12 Step Program

<h3 class="entry-header" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: black; font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: large; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 10px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 1px; text-align: left;">A Pole Addict's 12 Step Program: Step 12</h3><div class="entry-content" style="clear: both; font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: small; line-height: 19px; margin-bottom: 10px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 10px; position: static;"><div class="entry-body" style="clear: both;"><div style="margin-bottom: 10px; margin-top: 10px; text-align: left;"><span style="line-height: 19px;"><strong><span style="font-family: Verdana;">A GUIDE TO </span></strong><span style="text-decoration: line-through;"><strong><span style="font-family: Verdana;">RE</span></strong></span><strong><span style="color: #c00000;"><span style="font-family: Verdana;">(DIS)</span></span><span style="font-family: Verdana;">COVERY: Step 12</span></strong></span></div><div style="margin-bottom: 10px; margin-top: 10px; text-align: left;"><span style="line-height: 19px;"><span style="color: #c00000;"><span style="color: black; font-size: 13px;"><span style="color: #c00000;"><span style="-webkit-border-horizontal-spacing: 2px; -webkit-border-vertical-spacing: 2px; color: #333333; font-size: 14px; line-height: 16px;"><span style="color: #333333; font-size: 13px;"><span style="color: #c00000; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, FreeSans, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these steps, we tried to carry this message to other addicts, and to practice these principles in all our affairs.</span></span></span></span></span></span></span></div><div style="margin-bottom: 10px; margin-top: 10px; text-align: left;"></div><ol style="margin-bottom: 10px; margin-top: 10px;"><li><span color="#C00000" style="font-family: Helvetica, Arial, FreeSans, sans-serif;"><span style="-webkit-border-horizontal-spacing: 2px; -webkit-border-vertical-spacing: 2px; line-height: 16px;"><span style="color: black;"><a href="http://climbandspin.typepad.com/my_weblog/2009/09/a-pole-addicts-12-step-program-step-1-.html" style="color: black; font-weight: bold; text-decoration: none;"><span style="color: #c00000;">Step 1:</span></a></span> <span style="color: black;">We admitted and submitted to our addiction.</span></span></span></li> <li><span style="font-family: Helvetica, Arial, FreeSans, sans-serif;"><span style="-webkit-border-horizontal-spacing: 2px; -webkit-border-vertical-spacing: 2px; line-height: 16px;"><a href="http://climbandspin.typepad.com/my_weblog/2009/10/pole-addicts-road-to-re-discovery-part-2.html" style="color: black; font-weight: bold; text-decoration: none;"><span style="color: #c00000;">Step 2:</span></a> We recognized that our addiction has restored our sanity by helping us learn to love ourselves, our bodies and our sensuality.</span></span></li> <li><span style="font-family: Helvetica, Arial, FreeSans, sans-serif;"><span style="-webkit-border-horizontal-spacing: 2px; -webkit-border-vertical-spacing: 2px; line-height: 16px;"><a href="http://climbandspin.typepad.com/my_weblog/2009/11/made-a-decision-to-turn-our-will-and-our-lives-over-to-the-care-ofgodas-we-understood-himwe-humbly-recognize-that-we-are-pow.html" style="color: black; font-weight: bold; text-decoration: none;"><span style="color: #c00000;">Step 3:</span></a> We learned that, although our addiction is a healthy one, we must nurture it slowly.  We must take the time to create a unique, creative and safe relationship with the pole.</span></span></li> <li><span style="font-family: Helvetica, Arial, FreeSans, sans-serif;"><span style="-webkit-border-horizontal-spacing: 2px; -webkit-border-vertical-spacing: 2px; line-height: 16px;"><a href="http://climbandspin.typepad.com/my_weblog/2009/12/a-pole-addicts-12-step-program-step-4.html" style="color: black; font-weight: bold; text-decoration: none;"><span style="color: #c00000;">Step 4</span>:</a> We realized we should carry no shame about our addiction despite the ignorance and misunderstanding of close-minded people outside of our community.</span></span></li> <li><span style="font-family: Helvetica, Arial, FreeSans, sans-serif;"><span style="-webkit-border-horizontal-spacing: 2px; -webkit-border-vertical-spacing: 2px; line-height: 16px;"><a href="http://climbandspin.typepad.com/my_weblog/2010/01/admitted-to-god-to-ourselves-and-to-another-human-being-the-exact-nature-of-our-wrongsdear-godi-realize-and-now-regret-th.html" style="color: black; font-weight: bold; text-decoration: none;"><span style="color: #c00000;">Step 5:</span></a> We learned not to let fear, insecurity or other people's opinions get in the way of our healthy addiction.</span></span></li> <li><span style="font-family: Helvetica, Arial, FreeSans, sans-serif;"><span style="-webkit-border-horizontal-spacing: 2px; -webkit-border-vertical-spacing: 2px; line-height: 16px;"><a href="http://climbandspin.typepad.com/my_weblog/2010/02/a-pole-addicts-12-step-program-step-6.html" style="color: black; font-weight: bold; text-decoration: none;"><span style="color: #c00000;">Step 6:</span></a> We discovered ways to treat the side-effects of our addiction which include bruises, rips, burns and muscle soreness.</span></span></li> <li><span style="font-family: Helvetica, Arial, FreeSans, sans-serif;"><span style="-webkit-border-horizontal-spacing: 2px; -webkit-border-vertical-spacing: 2px; line-height: 16px;"><a href="htthttp://climbandspin.typepad.com/my_weblog/2010/03/a-pole-addicts-12-step-program-step-7.html" style="color: black; font-weight: bold; text-decoration: none;"><span style="color: #c00000;">Step 7:</span></a> We realized that there's no room for perfectionism in pole dancing and discovered ways not to  a.) become so obsessive to the point we hurt ourselves b.) delay our progress & our goals for fear of failure or  c.) become hypersensitive to constructive criticism.</span></span></li> <li><span style="font-family: Helvetica, Arial, FreeSans, sans-serif;"><span style="-webkit-border-horizontal-spacing: 2px; -webkit-border-vertical-spacing: 2px; line-height: 16px;"><a href="http://climbandspin.typepad.com/my_weblog/2010/04/a-pole-addicts-12-step-program-step-8.html" style="color: black; font-weight: bold; text-decoration: none;"><span style="color: #c00000;">Step 8:</span></a> We learned how to successfully and effectively "come out of the closet" as a pole addict to friends, family and co-workers.</span></span></li> <li><span style="font-family: Helvetica, Arial, FreeSans, sans-serif;"><span style="-webkit-border-horizontal-spacing: 2px; -webkit-border-vertical-spacing: 2px; line-height: 16px;"><a href="http://climbandspin.typepad.com/my_weblog/2010/05/a-guide-torediscovery-step-9made-direct-amends-to-those-people-whenever-possible-except-when-to-do-so-would-injure-them-o.html" style="color: black; font-weight: bold; text-decoration: none;"><span style="color: #c00000;">Step 9:</span></a> We found ways to embrace the anti-polers, pole-choicers and pro-polers into our lives.</span></span></li> <li><span style="font-family: Helvetica, Arial, FreeSans, sans-serif;"><span style="-webkit-border-horizontal-spacing: 2px; -webkit-border-vertical-spacing: 2px; line-height: 16px;"><a href="http://www.blogger.com/post-create.g?blogID=3922196140932006510" style="color: black; font-weight: bold; text-decoration: none;"></a><a href="http://climbandspin.typepad.com/my_weblog/2010/06/a-pole-addicts-12-step-program-step-10.html" style="color: black; font-weight: bold; text-decoration: none;"><span style="color: #c00000;">Step 10</span></a><a href="" style="font-weight: bold; text-decoration: none;"><span style="color: #c00000;">:</span></a> We learned to nurture our addiction with great care; making sure we train safely and progressively with a focus on proper bio-mechanics, good technique while adding our own unique style.</span></span></li> <li><span style="font-family: Helvetica, Arial, FreeSans, sans-serif;"><span style="-webkit-border-horizontal-spacing: 2px; -webkit-border-vertical-spacing: 2px; line-height: 16px;"><a href="http://www.blogger.com/post-create.g?blogID=3922196140932006510" style="color: black; font-weight: bold; text-decoration: none;"></a><a href="http://climbandspin.typepad.com/my_weblog/2010/07/a-guide-torediscovery-step-11sought-through-prayerand-meditationto-improve-our-conscious-contact-with-godas-we-understood.html" style="color: black; font-weight: bold; text-decoration: none;"><span style="color: #c00000;">Step 11:</span></a><a href="" style="font-weight: bold; text-decoration: none;"><span style="color: #c00000;"> </span></a> We learned how our pole addiction has helped us to discover our personal power, our tenacity plus our physical, emotional and artistic fortitude.</span></span></li> <li><span style="font-family: Helvetica, Arial, FreeSans, sans-serif;"><span style="-webkit-border-horizontal-spacing: 2px; -webkit-border-vertical-spacing: 2px; line-height: 16px;"><span style="color: #c00000;">Step 12:</span>  Now, it's our responsibility to continue practicing and sharing the previous 11 steps with other pole addicts and prospective pole addicts.  By doing so, we add to our individual and collective strength as a community.  In fact, the power of solidarity is what will continue propelling pole dancing into the mainstream without the need to sacrifice our integrity to our sensual and athletic art-form. </span></span></li> </ol><div style="margin-bottom: 10px; margin-top: 10px; text-align: left;"><span style="font-family: Helvetica, Arial, FreeSans, sans-serif;"><span style="-webkit-border-horizontal-spacing: 2px; -webkit-border-vertical-spacing: 2px; line-height: 16px;">Thank you so much for participating in A Pole Addict's 12 Step Program.  Ours truly is an addiction to be proud of.  Let's continue growing and thriving as a community; supporting one another as we strive to embrace our individual addictions.  Everyone's addiction is different.  Everyone's response to addiction is different. Everyone's rate of progress through the 12 Steps is different.  As it should be.</span></span></div></div></div>

A Pole Dance Addict's 12 Step Program

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Wе watch ourselves mаkе tһе mistakes tһаt all humans mаkе, wіtһ tһе detachment tһаt comes frοm looking аt ourselves frοm аח entirely different angle, detached frοm ego.</div> <div style="border-collapse: collapse; color: #404040; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; margin: 0.5em 0px; text-align: left;"> <br /> Tools Fοr Tenth Step Mastery</div> <div style="border-collapse: collapse; color: #404040; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; margin: 0.5em 0px; text-align: left;"> <br /> - Continue tһіѕ path οf spirituality іח recovery constantly. 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Life is Short.. Dance like No One Is Watching

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Life is Short.. Dance like No One Is Watching

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able to transform fear in our own lives

<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: monospace; font-size: 16px; white-space: pre;"><b>"We are able to be of service to those who suffer only to the extent <br /> that we have been able to transform fear in our own lives."</b></span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: monospace; font-size: 16px; white-space: pre;"> -- Robert Sardello </span><br /> <div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: monospace; font-size: 16px; white-space: pre;"><br /> </span></div>

able to transform fear in our own lives

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I share creation. Kings can do no more.

<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"></span><br /> <pre><b><span style="font-size: small;">"When the sun rises, I go to work. When the sun goes down, I take my rest. </span><span style="font-size: small;"> </span><span style="font-size: small;">I dig the well from which I drink. I farm the soil which yields my food. </span><span style="font-size: small;"> </span><span style="font-size: small;">I share creation. Kings can do no more."</span> </b> -- Chinese proverb</pre>

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father-son relationship may affect how sons, when they've grown into adults, deal with day-to-day stress

<div style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 18px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 10px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: left;">father-son relationship may affect how sons, when they've grown into adults, deal with day-to-day stress in their lives, a new study suggests.</div><div style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 18px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 10px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: left;">Men who characterized their childhood relationship with their dads as good were more likely to be less emotional in handling stressful events on a daily basis, the U.S. research shows.</div><div style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 18px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 10px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: left;">The findings emerged from a national sample of about 1,000 men and women who were questioned every day for a week on a wide variety of topics, and who had provided information not only on their relationships but health, medications, socioeconomic status and more.</div><div style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 18px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 10px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: left;">"Men who on days where they have a stressor are more reactive to it -- they're more likely to be in a bad mood and have higher levels of psychological stress -- these are the men who reported having poor relationships with their father in childhood," said psychologist Melanie Mallers, a stress health researcher at California State University-Fullerton.</div><div style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 18px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 10px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: left;">Mallers presented her study at the American Psychological Association's annual convention in San Diego on Thursday. The work has been accepted for publication in an upcoming journal, she said.</div><div style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 18px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 10px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: left;">Most of the parent-child literature focuses on the importance of the mother in the future success of a child. Mallers said she wasn't digging for the link that emerged between dads, their adult sons, and coping with stress.</div><div style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 18px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 10px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: left;">"It reared its head all on its own, and showed that dads really, really matter for their sons," she said in an interview from Fullerton before heading to the conference.</div><div style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 18px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 10px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: left;">"They matter for their daughters too, but they're especially significant for how adult men, the children who grow up to become adults, how they react to stress.</div><div style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 18px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 10px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: left;">"There's a strong link between having poor relationships with your dad in childhood and how you do react to stress as an adult."</div><div style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 18px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 10px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: left;">To determine the strength of their relationships, subjects were asked questions such as: "How would you rate your relationship with your mother during the years when you were growing up?" and "How much time and attention did your father give you when you needed it?"</div><div style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 18px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 10px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: left;">The daily phone calls asked, among other things, about their health, what they were angry about and what stressors they had dealt with: "Did they get in a fight with someone, did they get in a car accident, did they forget to pay a bill, did they lose hours from a job, did they have to work longer?" Mallers said.</div><div style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 18px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 10px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: left;">These kinds of day-to-day issues have an impact on health, sometimes more than major happenings like a divorce or the death of a loved one, she said.</div><div style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 18px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 10px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: left;">The findings are powerful from a research point of view, Mallers said, but she also sees them through the lens of motherhood.</div><div style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 18px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 10px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: left;">"As a mom, when I see the way my husband interacts with my son, I realize this is having lasting effects on how he's going to cope, my son, how he's going to cope when he's older," she said. "And he's learning things from his dad that I can't necessarily teach him."</div><div style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 18px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 10px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: left;">Overall, participants were more likely to describe their childhood relationship with their mom as better than the relationship with their dad. And more men reported a better mother-child relationship than women, the study found.</div><div style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 18px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 10px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: left;">People with good mother-child relationships reported three per cent less psychological distress compared to those with a poor relationship.</div><div style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 18px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 10px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: left;">A poor relationship with both parents was associated with more stressful incidents over the eight-day period, compared to those reporting a good parent-child bond.</div><div style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 18px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 10px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: left;">Mallers said she believes we need to have men more involved in children's lives as role models, whether it's as a parent or in child care and school settings.</div><div style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 18px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 10px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: left;">"What men can do for boys, the way they play with them, the way they talk with them, the way they teach them to be assertive, the way they teach them to problem-solve -- it has profound lasting implications."</div>

father-son relationship may affect how sons, when they've grown into adults, deal with day-to-day stress

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It is the wounded child in us that wants instant gratification.

<span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #0000cc;">It is very important to nurture ourselves out of the Loving adult in ourselves - the one who understands delayed gratification. </span><br /> <div style="color: #0000cc;">It is the wounded child in us that wants instant gratification.</div><div style="color: #0000cc;">We need to set boundaries for the wounded part of us that wants to go unconscious or indulge in things which are abusive in the long run.</div>

It is the wounded child in us that wants instant gratification.

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feeling of wanting to die, of not wanting to be here, is the most overwhelming, most familiar feeling in my emotional inner landscape.

"The feeling of wanting to die, of not wanting to be here, is the most overwhelming, most familiar feeling in my emotional inner landscape. Until I started doing my inner child healing I believed that who I really was at the deepest, truest part of my being, was that person who wanted to die."<br /> "The inner child we need to heal is actually our "inner children" who have been running our lives because we have been unconsciously reacting to life out of the emotional wounds and attitudes, the old tapes, of our childhoods."<br /> "Anytime we have a strong emotional reaction to something or someone - when a button is pushed and there is a lot of energy attached, a lot of intensity - that means there is old stuff involved.<br /> It is the inner child who feels panic or terror or rage or hopelessness, not the adult."<br /> "The one who betrayed us and abandoned and abused us the most was ourselves. That is how the emotional defense system that is Codependence works.<br /> The battle cry of Codependence is "I'll show you - I'll get me.""

feeling of wanting to die, of not wanting to be here, is the most overwhelming, most familiar feeling in my emotional inner landscape.

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NUMINOUS

<span class="Apple-style-span" style="-webkit-border-horizontal-spacing: 4px; -webkit-border-vertical-spacing: 4px; font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', Arial;"><b><span style="font-family: 'Palatino Linotype';"> NUMINOUS:  is a term referring to a feeling of the mysterious, all-inspiring, holy or sacred, which is present without reason. The idea is that "Man is born with this perception and is enabled by it to become part of the Divine." The German theologian and philosopher Rudolph Otto the concept was developed in the 1920s, which is explained in his famous book "The Idea of the Holy",  "Das Heilige" in 1917 and then published in English  in by Oxford University Press, London 1923.  2. filled with the sense of the </span><span style="color: black; font-family: 'Palatino Linotype';">presence of divinity</span><span style="font-family: 'Palatino Linotype';">. [Lat. <span style="color: #543e00;">numen </span>(spiritual force of a place/object/being)] In Christianity, God is everywhere, but there are certain places at certain times where the <u>sense</u> of God's presence, and its special-ness, is stronger than at other times and places. (There is also the sense of God's deliberate absence, which sometimes happens to remind people of God's usual presence.) T.L. ( <a href="http://www.spirithome.com/definiti.html" style="color: #993333;">spirithome.com </a>) 2.Also used as an adjective in describing the event, or new level of , consciousness as in "Numinous Experience", similar to Spiritual Experience, Peak Experience, Conversion Experience, Mystical Experience, or Religious Experience, although some state it is the opposite of a Religious Experience,  and they could be right. My experience is not so........</span></b></span>

NUMINOUS

 NUMINOUS:  is a term referring to a feeling of the mysterious, all-inspiring, holy or sacred, which is present without reason. The idea is ...

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Codependency is an addiction to unhealthy, unproductive relationships. You repeat patterns that cause you pain, yet you feel unable to break them.

<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"> <div class="zemanta-img" style="text-align: left;"> <a href="http://www.flickr.com/photos/48975257@N04/7593157722" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img alt="Codependency" border="0" class="zemanta-img-inserted" height="200" src="http://farm9.static.flickr.com/8149/7593157722_b9fb9c4d85_m.jpg" style="border: none; font-size: 0.8em;" width="157" /></a></div> <h4 style="text-align: left;">  Codependency is an addiction to unhealthy, unproductive relationships. You repeat patterns that cause you pain, yet you feel unable to break them. These relationships have a compulsive quality; you get hurt, but you keep going back for more, in the hope of changing something.</h4> In codependent relationships you comply. You adapt to the dysfunction of the relationship and deny your own reality, especially what you are feeling.<br /> You also control. You try to manipulate your partner, and the relationship, to be what you want them to be, when they may not be.<br /> You control yourself in order to try to fit when you do not. So compliance is a passive way of controlling.<br /> Compliance and controlling are essentially dishonest. 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Codependency is an addiction to unhealthy, unproductive relationships. You repeat patterns that cause you pain, yet you feel unable to break them.

 Codependency is an addiction to unhealthy, unproductive relationships. You repeat patterns that cause you pain, yet you feel unable to ...

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Humility is greatness bending, but not yielding to the storm

Humility is greatness bending, but not yielding to the storm. It is power, preserving its strength. It is faith, ready for the test. It is patience, willing<b> </b>to wait. It is the soul listening for the angel's song. It is<b> </b>wisdom, parting with ambition. It is confidence, prepared for the call. It is love, anxious to serve. It is the bud of gentleness, unfolding the fruit. It is obligation, realizing its responsibility. It is goodness, kneeling in prayer. It is the dove, returning to the ark. It is understanding, calm and secure

Humility is greatness bending, but not yielding to the storm

Humility is greatness bending, but not yielding to the storm. It is power, preserving its strength. It is faith, ready for the test. It is p...

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Humility is perpetual quietness of heart.

"Humility is perpetual quietness of heart. It is to have no trouble. It is never to be fretted or vexed, or irritable, to wonder at nothing that is done to me, to feel nothing that is done against me. It is to be at rest when nobody praises me, and when I am blamed or despised, it is to have a blessed home in myself where I can go in and shut the door and kneel to my Father in secret and be at peace, as in a deep sea of calmness, when all around and about is seeming trouble."

Humility is perpetual quietness of heart.

"Humility is perpetual quietness of heart. It is to have no trouble. It is never to be fretted or vexed, or irritable, to wonder at not...

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Contentment is not the fulfillment of what you want, but the realization of how much you already have.

<span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #333333; font-family: Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 19px;">Contentment is not the fulfillment of what you want, but the realization of how much you already have.</span>

Contentment is not the fulfillment of what you want, but the realization of how much you already have.

Contentment is not the fulfillment of what you want, but the realization of how much you already have.

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“Excessive dependency is a common ailment. It may be in the form of leaning on friends, teachers, doctors, or ministers. Or it may be a dependency on alcohol, cigarettes, coffee, or drugs. We have been misled with the belief that we come into life as empty creatures who must find fulfillment in the world.

<span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #6f3c1b; font-family: Georgia, Times, serif; font-size: 12px; line-height: 15px;">“Excessive dependency is a common ailment. It may be in the form of leaning on friends, teachers, doctors, or ministers. Or it may be a dependency on alcohol, cigarettes, coffee, or drugs. We have been misled with the belief that we come into life as empty creatures who must find fulfillment in the world.</span>

“Excessive dependency is a common ailment. It may be in the form of leaning on friends, teachers, doctors, or ministers. Or it may be a dependency on alcohol, cigarettes, coffee, or drugs. We have been misled with the belief that we come into life as empty creatures who must find fulfillment in the world.

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How A Child Learns

<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"> <div id="subpageMain" style="color: #333333; font-family: Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; height: 497px; line-height: 19px; margin-bottom: -42px; margin-left: 13px; margin-right: 13px; overflow-x: auto; overflow-y: auto; padding-right: 10px; text-align: left; width: 644px; z-index: 500;"> <h3 style="color: #333333; font-size: 15px; text-align: left;"> Some Native American Wisdom</h3> <div style="line-height: 1.5em; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;"> A Native American elder once described his own inner struggles in this manner:</div> <div style="line-height: 1.5em; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;"> "Inside of me there are two dogs. One of the dogs is mean and evil. The other dog is good. The mean dog fights the good dog all the time."</div> <div style="line-height: 1.5em; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;"> When asked which dog wins, he reflected for a moment and replied, "The one I feed the most."</div> <div style="line-height: 1.5em; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;"> <a class="style1" href="http://www.creativegrowth.com/qquotes.htm#content" style="color: #335c64; font-size: 10px; text-decoration: none;">back to contents</a></div> <h3 style="color: #333333; font-size: 15px; text-align: left;"> <a href="http://www.blogger.com/blogger.g?blogID=3922196140932006510" id="30" name="30"></a>How A Child Learns</h3> <div style="line-height: 1.5em; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;"> If a child lives with criticism, he learns to condemn.<br /> If a child lives with hostility, she learns to fight.<br /> If a child lives with ridicule, he learns to be shy.<br /> If a child lives with shame, she learns to feel guilty.<br /> If a child lives with tolerance, he learns to be patient.<br /> If a child lives with encouragement, she learns confidence.<br /> If a child lives with praise, he learns to appreciate.<br /> If a child lives with fairness, she learns justice.<br /> If a child lives with security, he learns to have faith.<br /> If a child lives with approval, she learns to like herself.<br /> If a child lives with acceptance and friendship, he learns to find love in the world.<br /> (Dorothy Law Nolte)</div> <div style="line-height: 1.5em; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;"> <a class="style1" href="http://www.creativegrowth.com/qquotes.htm#content" style="color: #335c64; font-size: 10px; text-decoration: none;">back to contents</a></div> <h3 style="color: #333333; font-size: 15px; text-align: left;"> <a href="http://www.blogger.com/blogger.g?blogID=3922196140932006510" id="24" name="24"></a>Insights and Wisdom from Dick Olney</h3> <div style="line-height: 1.5em; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;"> Who was Dick Olney? Dick was both a master psychotherapist and, for many, a profound spiritual teacher. He called his work Self-Acceptance Training and he trained therapists and others from coast to coast for more than two decades. Dick said the truth can never be spoken. Even so, his words point the way. Here are some samples of what Dick has said (excerpted from <em>Walking in Beauty: A Collection of the Psychological Insights and Spiritual Wisdom of Dick Olney</em>, edited by Roslyn Moore. To order, contact DO Publishing, P.O. Box 103, Mendocino, California 95460):</div> <div style="line-height: 1.5em; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;"> "There is only one wound of the mental body, and that is the wound of self-criticism or self-judgment"</div> <div style="line-height: 1.5em; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;"> "Self-criticism or self-judgment is self-hatred. It will always hurt you. There is no exception to that."</div> <div style="line-height: 1.5em; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;"> "One definition of insanity is to do something for twenty years that has not worked, and then do it again as if it will work."</div> <div style="line-height: 1.5em; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;"> "To see what you are not is most important. Then what you are will naturally emerge."</div> <div style="line-height: 1.5em; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;"> "The goal of a good therapist is to help someone wake up from the bad dream that they are their self-image."</div> <div style="line-height: 1.5em; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;"> "Your thoughts come automatically. It is to the extent you identify with them that they make you their slave. You become the mistress of your thoughts, not when you can control the machine, but when you do not identify with it."</div> <div style="line-height: 1.5em; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;"> "Emotion will not drive you crazy. What will drive you crazy is the fear of emotion."</div> <div style="line-height: 1.5em; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;"> <strong>Living According to False Beliefs</strong><br /> We all live according to false beliefs. Bringing such beliefs to light is an important step in our deconditioning process. A few random false beliefs:</div> <div style="line-height: 1.5em; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;"> "Because my father abandoned me when I was a child, I must go through life abandoning the people close to me."</div> <div style="line-height: 1.5em; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;"> "If I make a mistake, I will die."</div> <div style="line-height: 1.5em; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;"> "I don't have time to feel what I am feeling, because I have to figure it all out."</div> <div style="line-height: 1.5em; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;"> "I have to get where I go by suffering."</div> <div style="line-height: 1.5em; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;"> "When I start to feel good, I must remember to feel bad, because I didn't feel good before."</div> <div style="line-height: 1.5em; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;"> "Because my mother withheld intimacy from me when I was small, I cannot offer intimacy for the rest of my life."</div> <div style="line-height: 1.5em; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;"> "If I leave him, I'll die."</div> <div style="line-height: 1.5em; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;"> "I can't be happy, because if I allow myself to be happy, I might be humiliated."</div> <div style="line-height: 1.5em; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;"> "I must earn and deserve every good thing I get."</div> <div style="line-height: 1.5em; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;"> <a class="style1" href="http://www.creativegrowth.com/qquotes.htm#content" style="color: #335c64; font-size: 10px; text-decoration: none;">back to contents</a></div> <h3 style="color: #333333; font-size: 15px; text-align: left;"> <a href="http://www.blogger.com/blogger.g?blogID=3922196140932006510" id="25" name="25"></a>Other People's Expectations</h3> <div style="line-height: 1.5em; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;"> "The only man who behaved sensibly was my tailor; he took my measurement anew every time he saw me, while all the rest went on with their old measurements and expected them to fit me." -- George Bernard Shaw</div> <div style="line-height: 1.5em; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;"> <a class="style1" href="http://www.creativegrowth.com/qquotes.htm#content" style="color: #335c64; font-size: 10px; text-decoration: none;">back to contents</a></div> <h3 style="color: #333333; font-size: 15px; text-align: left;"> <a href="http://www.blogger.com/blogger.g?blogID=3922196140932006510" id="26" name="26"></a>Turning It Over to Higher Power</h3> <div style="line-height: 1.5em; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;"> "God loves you and He knows all the secrets of your heart...you've allowed the past to come between you and God. Turn the past over to God. He's strong enough to take it. And give Him your future, too....He'll make you strong enough to live it."</div> <div style="line-height: 1.5em; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;"> The angel Claire, speaking to Jake, a jaded Vietnam vet, in the TV show Touched By An Angel.</div> <div style="line-height: 1.5em; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;"> <a class="style1" href="http://www.creativegrowth.com/qquotes.htm#content" style="color: #335c64; font-size: 10px; text-decoration: none;">back to contents</a></div> <h3 style="color: #333333; font-size: 15px; text-align: left;"> <a href="http://www.blogger.com/blogger.g?blogID=3922196140932006510" id="27" name="27"></a>On Being Happy and Serving Others</h3> <div style="line-height: 1.5em; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;"> "Happiness is not an individual matter. When you are able to bring relief, or bring back the smile to one person, not only that person profits, but you also profit. The deepest happiness you can have comes from that capacity to help relieve the suffering of others. So if we have the habit of being peace, then there is a natural tendency for us to go in the direction of service. Nothing compels us, except the joy of sharing peace, the joy of sharing freedom from afflictions, freedom from worries, freedom from craving, which are the true foundations for happiness.</div> <div style="line-height: 1.5em; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;"> "And once we have the condition of peace and joy in us, we can afford to be in any situation. Even in the situation of hell, we will be able to contribute our peace and serenity. The most important thing is for each of us to have some freedom in our heart, some stability in our heart, some peace in our heart. Only then will we be able to relieve the suffering around us."<br /> (Thich Nhat Hanh, Vietnamese Buddhist teacher, interviewed by Ram Dass, as quoted in<em>Inquiring Mind Magazine</em>, Spring 1996 issue)</div> <div style="line-height: 1.5em; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;"> Today, like every other day,<br /> we wake up empty and scared.<br /> Don't open the door to the study<br /> and begin reading.<br /> Take down the dulcimer.<br /> Let the beauty we love be what we do.<br /> There are hundreds of ways<br /> to kneel<br /> and kiss the ground.<br /> (Rumi, Sufi mystic)</div> <div style="line-height: 1.5em; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;"> <a class="style1" href="http://www.creativegrowth.com/qquotes.htm#content" style="color: #335c64; font-size: 10px; text-decoration: none;">back to contents</a></div> <h3 style="color: #333333; font-size: 15px; text-align: left;"> <a href="http://www.blogger.com/blogger.g?blogID=3922196140932006510" id="28" name="28"></a>The Essence of All Being</h3> <div style="line-height: 1.5em; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;"> Meher Baba, offers a comprehensive spiritual sweep to life:</div> <div style="line-height: 1.5em; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;"> "From the spiritual point of view, the only important thing is to realize Divine Life and to help others realize it by manifesting it in everyday happenings. To penetrate into the essence of all being and significance and to release the fragrance of that inner attainment for the guidance and benefit of others -- by expressing, in the world of forms, truth, love, purity, and beauty -- this is the sole game that has intrinsic and absolute worth. All other happenings, incidents, and attainments in themselves can have no lasting importance." (Meher Baba, <em>Discourses</em>, page 200.)</div> <div style="line-height: 1.5em; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;"> <a class="style1" href="http://www.creativegrowth.com/qquotes.htm#content" style="color: #335c64; font-size: 10px; text-decoration: none;">back to contents</a></div> <h3 style="color: #333333; font-size: 15px; text-align: left;"> <a href="http://www.blogger.com/blogger.g?blogID=3922196140932006510" id="29" name="29"></a>A Prayer for Peace, Growth, and Recovery</h3> <div style="line-height: 1.5em; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;"> Lord, make me an instrument of your peace.<br /> Where there is hatred...let me sow love.<br /> Where there is injury...pardon.<br /> Where there is doubt...faith.<br /> Where there is despair...hope.<br /> Where there is darkness...light<br /> Where there is sadness...joy.<br /> Oh Divine Master, grant that I may not so much seek to be consoled...as to console.<br /> To be understood...as to understand.<br /> To be loved...as to love.<br /> For it is in giving that we receive.<br /> It is in pardoning that we are pardoned.<br /> It is in dying that we are born to eternal life.</div> <div style="line-height: 1.5em; 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